being wo3 xing2 wo3 su4

weeeeeee..... SG

Originally posted by edLow:
Being wo xing wo su:
on the good side.. u have a mind/opinion of ur own.
but if u are one extreme wo xing wo su style which insist tat others must follow ur decision. u end up being a dictator and ordering ppls ard. and this doesnt sound good.

tat how i think. but for me, i would prefer to follow the crowds or ask the crowds for opinion before confirming certain things.

hmm, forget to include something.. My CCA officer once told me this quote before: [b]A good leader is also a good follower. I forget where he quote tat sentence from. Might be from the bible.[/b]

good point u raised, on A good leader is also a good follower. but i have no wish to be a leader. i'm not carved out to lead ppl and i know that.

and i dont insist ppl to follow my decision or ordering ppl around.

weeeeeee..... SG

i agree!

i've been always very conscious of myself, what i do and how i act. if i can discover any wrong, i'll try to improve.

but there might be some times that i overlooked or do not discover my wrongdoings. and the only "mirror" i can have is my friends' advice... by telling me off. that'll create more impact.

f|ower ger SG

good to be wo xing wo su sometimes..if that’s yr personality yr friends should be able to accept it.. but sometimes in order to be with yr friends or be in their click.. we have to be more sway he.. as in they wanna go this place although u dont really like it.. maybe u can just tag along and be one of the company..

edLow SG

Originally posted by weeeeeee.....:

good point u raised, on [b]A good leader is also a good follower. but i have no wish to be a leader. i'm not carved out to lead ppl and i know that.

and i dont insist ppl to follow my decision or ordering ppl around.
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Sometime there bound to be someone ard to lead the grp. But being too strict and start ordering ppls ard.. doesnt sound good. Might end up an arguements with frds.

edLow SG

But frds might not necassary give the real advise as they might noe u too well than urself. Chinese got a saying goes "Pang Kuan Zhe Qing" and they know tat a small remark might actually spoil the friendship between both.. assuming the person involve is too confident and does not really accept wat's other say bout him/her

weeeeeee..... SG

yes, i agree... if the person involved is too confident or proud, he or she might not accept what others say to him or her.

i've got several ppl telling me off before, such as
"wee, u need to watch ur temper", or
"wee, u have to be careful wif ur words, ppl might get offended", or
"wee, pls spare a thought for other ppl, u have been very mean", etc.

i dont usually defend for myself on the spot. i wud think for a while, if i'm really in the wrong. can even go home and digest it and make sure i improve myself or try my best that i wont do it again.

but if it's an accusation which i know straightaway i didnt do it, such as
"wee, how can u steal his money?" or
"wee, dont call ppl a b-i-t-c-h or s-l-u-t".

shudnt i defend myself?

edLow SG

good to hear tat. at least ur frd to tell ur tat u might be abit too much occasionally. Unlike my frds, donno they are too used to the way I speak and thus, it normal for them already. Or they just cant be bother.
When accusation which will spoil ur image is shoot onto u, of course the first thing is to clear urself from the rubbish which other had frame onto u.

weeeeeee..... SG

one of my friend who did make the effort to tell me off is khronos.

i remember there was a period of time (about 2 or 3 yrs back) that we cheong boat quay a lot. and frequent a particular pub there almost every week.

there was once i have offended the pub owner which i failed to realised it. the pub owner is very buay song wif me and confronted me. at the point of confrontation, i still dunno what's the reason for his actions.

luckily, khronos helped me out by talking to the pub owner in private. after that, khronos came to me and told me that some of my words r to "chak" or sarcastic which the pub owner regards as offensive.

then i realised i was in the wrong, and i made my apology to the pub owner. the pub owner accepted my apologies and treat us a jug of beer.

i'm a grateful person, and i wont forget what khronos has done for me. it's not only this occasion that he has helped me got out of trouble.

thus, i regard him as a true friend and i will not hesitate to offer him my help if he needs it, as long as it's within my means.

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