I would like to draw a few pointers.
P -1
Isn’t it not true
that Sun Yet Seng had import in modern value that brought a breath
of fresh air to the Patriarch feudal Chinese
monarchist society? He had to lead a revolution
to get recognition. Isn’t it not true that in order find new ground
you have to break from known fundamental…..
Although Singapore
is not a feudal society but one could not help by observing the
parallel of Patriarch Politics in Singapore society and the
expectation of its citizens; while overseas observers has long
called Singapore a Lee Dynasty for years. Aren't we all so tired of
being Told by some minister?
P - 2
What happen is that
kids that grew up in America developed individual opinions much
younger than kids grow up in Asia. As such by age 13th –
14th , Parents could no longer exercise authoritarian
right on the children as if you were in Singapore.
Parenting in the US
requires much higher parenting skills sets and responsibilities as
compared to Singapore that depend on public social system. I think
parenting skills has been largely ignored in Singapore as both
parents work and maid was employed. (Sorry different Tangent off
topics)
But more importantly
relationship between Parents and children took a more “Adulthood”
relationship there is less interfering of adult lifestyle. The
honoring of parents is shown thru how they lead one’s
life.
P -3
I think it is
socially wrong to assume because of the independent nature of the
society. Kids do not hold family relationship after 18yrs of age.
As you would already know either in Thanks Giving and Christmas is
a busy travelling period in the US because they returned home to be
with their family. It is the same as CNY. (You
have to take reference between the sizes of SG vs. US. Is not only
some MRT Station away)
Plus it is hard to
simplify American cultured because of the diverse ethnicity from
immigrant throughout the world as such the single most common Day
to mark family, and appreciation is Thanks Giving Day.
(And of course
my Chinese co-worker called it Turkey Festival
in Cantonese) everyone that move here has a variety
in the depth of comprehending the merit of this society. what
is important is not what it should "represent" but how one use
it to better their lives. So Family A is always different from "B"
.
That is why there
are so many version of what America should be.....ha ha
ha.
Agree, the idea of a republic
was indeed fresh air to the ancient feudal
monarchist China then. Western
civilization took a great turn for the better after Renaissance in
Europe, and there was much for China, and the world to learn from
it.
But what
are the fundamentals for a government? In a nutshell, it is to
provide a peaceful decent life for its people. Societies used to
have kings as their leaders, then government. If kings had done
their job well, there would not have been any need for collective
governance. Nobody wanted any change during the Kangxi rule, when
China was power and prosperous. But in the late 18th
century, Chinese monarchy was rotten to the root, even totally
powerless to protect its people from the drug peddling nation. The
need to change was imminent. What Sun was looking for in the new
government? To provide peaceful and decent life for the people of
China. This fundamental doesn’t not change. Unfortunately, Chinese
people didn’t have peace until much later.
If
people have peaceful and decent life, they would be more skeptical
about changes, that is the dilemma Singaporean are
facing.
It is
important to note that changing government requires majority votes,
changing kings and emperors will need a revolution. How do you
think changes should take place in Singapore?
Actually
all kids have their own opinions, even at very young age. The
difference between the east and the west is how they are allowed to
express and exercise their individual opinion.
In the
east, the adult will say to the young, “I said you can do then you
can do” that is authoritarian, “I eat more salt than the rice you
eat”, that is arrogant. “if you use your own money you can do what
you want”, that is practical; “ be responsible for what you do”,
that is advice, “please give due consideration to those affected by
your action”, that is asking for a show of kindness. Adults don’t
always exercise authoritarian rights.
Can
agree that US parents need more parenting skills, because they take
on more responsibilities. Many Singaporean parents leave parenting
to schools, maids, and grandparents, and hold the government
responsible even if they have no babies.
.
Being
independent means you don’t depend on your parents anymore, but how
much does one take their parents and siblings into consideration in
their decision show how much they care, how much they listen to
their parents, when the opinion is diff, show how much respect
there are, how much they are prepared to do for their parents, at
their own expense, demonstrate how much they honor
them. Location does not matter. The strength of bond and love
is not demonstrated in a once a year gathering, or how much money
or gift given out (Singaporean parents, or urban parents are more
likely guilty of this).
Yes, the
US is big, there are distinct urban, sub urban and rural
population, it is a migrant society, and is thus more diverse, but
outside of the US, we understand them by what and how they project
themselves, politically, socially and culturally.