mapp|ezz SG by ur group of frens? let say one of them in the group hate tiz particular person..n keeps on badmouthing him/her..will u follow suit and join in to tok abt the person..influencing almost every1 in the grp to hate him/her..or u choose nt to make a stand? probably many will say u tat they choose nt to make a stand...bt i tink grp influence has a certain impact of how a person judge another person...even i am influenced at times..bt if i am given a chance to noe the person better..tiz mite not be the case... sumtimes we juz failed to noe a person real enuff n then we start ramming how bad he/she is..dun u tink so?
BufPuf SG ya like last time in poly..when we think that those few people were bad...den they become okie..and those who were innocent become errr...u noe...
*evanesence* SG oh geez... how come Im always the person who is the "one of them in the group hate tiz particular person" ... Hmmm.... b|tching is a vicious cycle... U b|tch and get b|tched about ... so it doesnt matter anymore who's b|tching abt who..
BufPuf SG it's group norms i guess if u wan to stay together as a group..sometimes u just have to follow it.... some people may say that....they won't follow...they got their own stand..but in such a society..normally u got your own stand = outcaste
mapp|ezz SG i guess wad comes ard goes ard or ezit the other way round? you lai you qu..u b|tch abt mi..i b|tch abt it..very common lar... hehe sumtimes i am the person whu starts the b|tching too..n i am the first one to realise tat the person is actuali a nice person..
xavier1979 SG It happens all the time. I see it everywhere in my workplace. The hardest thing for a person to do after being 'indoctrined' with these negative opinions is to maintain a neutral stand. Somehow or rather, I would try to give the person the benefit of the doubt. However, if he step on my toes and screw me up, I would simply join in the name-bashing.
*evanesence* SG it's inevitable.... even if U dun b|tch about any1, surely sum1 would b|tch about u.... and usual the people i b|tch about are defintely NOT NICE!
mapp|ezz SG ya i totally agree...when u dun go wif the majority u r out...then u will be the one being kah jiao wei...sumtimes u will tink wads wrong wif voicing out ur ideas..n stickin to them..bt nv realise tat u will be out of the grp soon... worst is when u dun even noe they are tokin bad abt u n u stil happily stickin wif them
PaulSmith SG I dun follow anyone easily. I do wat I think is rite. Like my poly friend lor. they dun like the other group of pple n talk bad abt them. but me friend with everyone then they say me DOUBLE HEAD SNAKE. But do u think i CARE? Me Dun give a DAM!!!
Devil1976 SG I'm hardly influenced by humans*.... * Disclaimer - does not include sexual arousal made by appropriate party and individuals. "
thhong22 SG i guess i'm neutral...... cos both my frans r enemy..... but they r still my frans, n i hate it when one of them say "u r person A fran, his fran will not b my fran" knn.... he ask me out then tell me i'll not b his fran, then call me out for wat..... but now we all still frans lah..... n he nv mention tat sentence again after i scold him of "u n him r enemy tat's ur biz.... don get me involve, i wont side anyone" sickening n irritating hoh???
