i guess since i'm a guy let's reverse the roles: my gal's ex is
hounding her.
suddenly all these subjective thoughts come into my head. if my gal
is the level-headed sort and knows wat she's doing, then i'd let
her handle it the way she thinks best but of course giving her my
opinions when needed. of course i would be unhappy about it, even
if it's just the fact that someone (doesn't have to be her ex) is
harassing her and causing her unhappiness or discomfort.
if she's the insipid type that has no idea how to handle the
situation, with her permission i'd take matters into my hands and
probably give the guy a call first and speak amiably. i doubt i'd
turn violent with him unless he personally offends me (takes more
than words on the phone to offend me, if he's a "xiao ren"[/i]).
another step would be to get my gf to change her handphone number.
just depends on how far he wants to take the "war". there's always
a restraining order from the courts, as a last resort. 
