Sorry to disappoint your presumptous and inane theory about me,
jojobeach. No, I had not been abused by gays before or at any other
time.
I have nothing against humans who turned homosexual, so long as
they KEEP TO THEMSELVES AND NOT PROMOTE THEIR LIFESTYLES OR FORCE
THEIR VALUES ON US. But like all men of science, I believe that one
should challenge the status quo of any vital theory, to source
every viewpoint from both sides so as to be able to make an
informed decision. More so with decisions that affect our
society.
Thank you luce for your confidence in me, but personally, if that
is a discrimination, then i believe more time should be given to
consider it from all angles and more importantly, how it would
affect our society as a whole, not just the few gays who insist on
getting married. Once laws are made, revision will be difficult if
not impossible, when errors and misjudgement surfaced. Lives may be
lost in the meanwhile
Who I am or what I think personally is of no consequence, for alone
I am insignificant. But more critical is what our society thinks
and operates upon. In order to make a wise choice, it is only fair
that they be given enough data to do so, without fear or favour,
given coldly, clinically without the baggages of personal
distaste for individual debater and
with rationally or at least full honest personal
beliefs, no matter which side one is on.
It may be too much to hope for, but we have to start somewhere,
beginning with you and me, if we indeed do have care and concern
for our society, thus the attempt with Kuali to see her side of
view and hopefully more rationalities from both sides.
Will our society one day encourage homosexuality the way we
encourage heterosexual unions, but like the perceptive TS had
spoken, it may happen or it may not. But regardless its whichever
eventuality, such decisions must be made upon a wise and majority
based platform that only a society can make, of which i, an
individual, am subject to respect just as everyone else.
Dear dear stop saying you are insignificant and ergo, your views
must be too. Granted you are one individual but society is made up
of individuals is it not? Our society currently operates from a
black box thinking that gays = social evil = breakdown of family
unit = bad for Singapore. We tackling the fundamental assumption of
the family unit. This monogamous heterosexual family unit may seem
normal now, but it appears normal in sofar as it has been the
standard as long as human memory can remember. Let's not deny that
there have been a myriad of other family forms as others have
mentioned here, the kibbutz, the onyi kty (spelling?) in Russia,
and of course polygamous family units in some countries. What we
see as normal is only because we have been conditioned to view it
as thus.
I mean, it was only less than 50 years ago when Jim Crow laws
were still in place and less than 100 years ago when women were
denied the right to vote, education, owning property etc. If they
had not "imposed their values" upon their society then, would
change have come about? So what's all this about gradualism? I say,
justice delayed is justice denied. Women having education certainly
was not normal back in 1900 but today it sure is and for good
reason. Societal expectations of normality have changed and will
changed.
Parallelisms aside, regarding gay marriage - I forsee the
argument that allowing gays a civil union or marriage would be
tantamount to condoning it. And ah, our young impressionable green
minds of our next generation would be taught to see that gay
marriage is normal. Well, learning to be tolerant and to embrace
others? Heaven forbid! More children will be encouraged to be gay.
Well, I care not whether homosexuality is a lifestyle choice or
whether one is born with it - I don't even believe that gayness is
a discrete category one finds himself or herself in. Homosexuality
is a spectrum upon which we all lie and exhibit varying degrees of.
Our society draws the line between heterosexuality and
homosexuality at whether man has sex with other men or women. But
as someone rightly mentioned, even heterosexuals resort to sodomy
under desperate conditions. So what really is homosexuality and
heterosexuality? They are fluid identies, subject to flux.
There really is no right way out of this pickle. Just maybe live
and let live and try to embrace diversity. Is it really so
hard?
Yes I know I know, the family unit argument again.........
