The government is worried that Singaporeans are not getting
hitched - there are increasing number of singles in Singapore. The
government is offering a slew of incentives, and even advice on how
to date, how to get married, but I doubt it will work. The problem
I think is because these measures target the symptoms and not the
cause of the problem; in my opinion, the root of the problem lies
in the minds of peasantboys and peasantgirls.
Singaporean peasantboys are one of the most boring members of the
adult male species - dating them is often a somniferous experience.
Ever notice that the only topic of conversation that excites them,
other than their jobs, is National Service? Yes we really want to
hear about your days in the army, crawling through mud, or gory
tales of training accidents - that really gets our loins burning.
The added irony is that despite their macho tales, most peasantboys
are mummy's boys - what self-respecting man would continue staying
with his parents till the late 20's and even early 30's , letting
his mum cook, clean and wash for him? Real women want to date grown
up men, not little boys staying at home.
Peasantboys are also wimps - they let peasantgirls walk all over
them. They act as their chauffer, their ATM machine and chaperone
all rolled into one. Yet, in another ironic twist, they are also
male chauvinists, hanging on to anachronistic notions of submissve
virginal women who would do as they are told and go off looking for
Vietnamese village brides when they don't get what they want here.
A message for you peasantboys: most women would love to defer to
their men, but strong men who know what they want, who have
strength of character. We are not going to submit ourselves to
wimpy mummy's boys.
Peasantgirls are not any better - they suffer from the 'I want the
cake and eat it syndrome'. Singaporean women want the rights of
Western Women and none of the obligations. They also want all the
rights of Eastern Women and none of their obligations either.
If you want to be treated as an equal - behave like an equal. Don't
expect your man to pay for everything and not even thank them for
it. Go dutch sometimes. Take a taxi to the place that you are going
to meet your peasantboy and not expect to be driven around like an
invalid all the time. If you want to be an equal in marriage,
contribute equally to the family accounts - in what world do you
think it's fair that you get to spend your husband's money whilst
keeping your salary for yourselves?
On the other hand, if you want to be treated like an Eastern Woman,
for the husband to take care of you financially, materially, drive
you around, do things for you then be prepared to take on the
obligations of an Eastern Woman. Go learn how to cook - and not
just instant noodels and fried eggs. Learn how to sew. Defer to
your husband as the head of the household, and learn how to care
for him as the primary caregiver (whilst he is the primary
breadwinner).
Neither Western or Eastern Woman is superior; however the Singapore
Peasantwoman who wants the best of both worlds is definitely
inferior. Make up your mind - choose one or the other. Even
Peasantboys wake up one day when they have been screwed over in a
bad deal for too long.
So the problem as I see it is that the Peasantboy and the
Peasantgirl are fudamentally a bad match, to the extent that they
probably hate the sight of each other. Peasantboys complain about
Peasantgirls all the time, Peasantgirls whinge about Peasantboys,
and neither the twain shall meet.
Therefore, until the mindsets of peasantboys and peasantgirls are
changed, no amount of economic incentives or nagging by the
government will turn things around.
The illnesses of the peasant are of the mind, and unless it's
cured, it's probably better they don't get together and
procreate.
http://theladymelissa.blogspot.com/2008/08/mismatch-made-in-peasant.html
1) I did not offer to pay on my first date with my hubby 2) I
offered to pay other times, and sometimes he lets me 3) when he saw
me home last time, we took the bus 4) i hardly ever take the taxi
anywhere, unless it's paid for by the company 5) i didn't know how
to cook, but I learned 6) my hubby also cooks and we do household
chores together, talking, joking, having fun, every saturday
without fail 7) we contribute somewhat equally to the household
expenses : : : : : : : : : 8) My hubby is not local. I am. So? If
there is a real shortage of good men (local) in Singapore, maybe
it's time to be more open minded.
