A bit off topic, but abuse is just abuse, it's never
correct.
As it turns out the old feminist theory of violence in soceity
as a way to repress women and keep soceity male dominated turned
out to be a tad simplistic... as it turns out abuse and violence is
just as common even in lesbian relationships.
And of course, violence is not just physical, there are
other forums of violence such as emotional and mental violence that
are extremely harmful as well... as it turns out women are just as
capable as men as using abuse in any relationship.
It all depends on the person... while men are more capable of
inflicting physical violence, anybody who has been on the
recieving end of a bad lady can tell you that the emotional, and
mental aspects of abuse are very real, even if they don't show up
as a black eye. And of course, we can't deny that soceity is not
geared much towards adressing the issue of female violence as much
as male violence.
My take on this? Unfortuntely for the feminist assumption, the
world will not be more peaceful or even anywhere near utopia if
it's ruled by women. It would still be as violent and painful as
the world we live in now.
I am not really surprised by that really, I believe that we
humans are all fallen creatures, and am less inclined that changing
this or that status quo will change anything, it just passes the
buck about. If we want to deal with the root issue of violence and
abuse, we need to move beyond the simplistic feminist theory of
it.
good, thx for pointing out that too, SingaporeTyrannosaur.
they just don't seem to realise that men too have rights to
prevent themselves from being abused. that's why i keep saying that
men too should have a men's charter.
and to jojo, are you sure its adrian who abandon her? i think
its more that he was force to divorce her, and even the divorce is
made difficult for him, spanning 3 yrs.
gender aside, if you are the one being abused, be it physically,
mentally or verbally, wouldn't you seek an end to this
torment? do you call that abandonment?
even if ur abusive spouse is handicapped, sick,or whatsoever, i
would still leave her, since she does not know how to treasure
someone who loved her. since she reciprocate goodwill with abuse,
it is best to leave before you are abused into the realm of
insanity.
and did i twist ur words around? if there isn't even a tinge of
doubt in ur words, no amount of nit-picking, word-twisting would be
effective in getting a 2nd meaning out of a sentence.
ask urself, why would ur sil need to plan differently if she's
noe that she's legally entitled to 25%?
if the marriage sustain, she would remain well cared for by your
brother, and hence, no need for her to have any change of
plans.
and if she married a good man, as i assume ur brother is,
although the legal entitlement is 25%, she would still receive much
more than that. 50% or more, depending on the generosity of ur
brother.
so, unless she has a tinge of doubt in her marriage, why would
she even need to "plan differently"?