If you're still healing from a previous breakup, it's not a good
time to get quickly involved with another person -- it's not fair
for you, and definitely not fair to him.
Stay true to yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not or
try to change yourself to fit what you think he wants. It's
impossible keep up with the pretense for long anyway, and besides,
if he's not prepared to embrace who you really are, he's not the
one for you.
You'll risk coming across as being too needy or clingy if you
insist on seeing him every single day. Do give him a little space
and some time to miss you.
Physical intimacy, how far it should go and when, totally varies by
couple and person. If you are not comfortable with certain things,
lay down the ground rules in the beginning so there's no room for
misunderstandings.
Don't drop everything else in your life to be with your new guy.
Things like spending time with your friends and family, and 'me'
time for pursuing your hobbies are important to help keep you a
healthy, balanced person. You'll have plenty of time in the future
to spend together in the relationship pans out. And if it doesn't?
You'll be glad you have the support of your girlfriends.
When you're still at the budding phase of the relationship, any
talk of the future, like laying out plans for marriage and kids,
can scare a man off -- not to mention make you sound desperate.
Take it easy and just enjoy the way things are for now.
Apart from being a major turn-off, it really accomplishes nothing
except stir up feelings of jealousy and insecurity. Let the past
stay in the past.
Don't rush into it -- introduce him to a couple of your close
friends and make sure that your partner is comfortable before
moving on to meeting family. You'll want to wait at least a month
or so before introducing him to your parents.
Hey, nobody's perfect! As much as you value honesty in a
relationship, there's no need to 'come clean' with all your flaws
to your new beau. Take it easy and let time reveal your quirks when
you move on to a steady romantic relationship.
It's easy to ignore your instincts when you're in love, but don't
turn a blind eye to any red flags such as lying, cheating, violence
and anger issues. If these are happening in the so-called honeymoon
phase of your relationship, it doesn't bode well for the
future.
SL
