I am 27 years old man who just started working for a
company located in Tg Pagar. I am still single but haven't found
the right person in my life. I sympathise with women who in their
late age and are eager to settle down but why must most of the time
they force pair themselves with single men who are not interested
in them?
There is this lady in the office that wants my attention and is
always getting this manager whom I work closely with, to try to
give me problems. He (the manager) constantly try to denegrade me,
speak to me rudely and give me utter disrespect. Then when she
thinks that I am seen to be flustered and frustrated, she tries to
come near me as if wanting to be friends. I am not trying to be
unfriendly but why must she resort to such dirty tactics to try to
get to know me better? I did not want to be too open at her because
her intentions don't seem to be very genuine.
Then secondly there is anotehr lady who constantly want to be
popular and always wanting attention. Because I tend to sink into
my work and not conversate a lot, she became frustrated at my lack
of attention at her. Days after that, some people started being
rude at me, not given me the teamwork I wanted. But I made my stand
and I don't polish shoe and I just be myself and do my best at my
work.
From this two cases, I find that single women seem to want to
set a lot of pre-conditions on their offer of friendship which seem
to have dubious intentions. I do not mind making friends with
single women so as long as they don't take advantage of my status
of being single and instead want to be chased after in return.
Don't they understand that the guy is not interested in them?
Friendships with single women are very difficult because they
always want the single guy's attention, and when they don't get it,
they become frustrated and start attacking the guy. Why is this so?
I am very sure generally not all single women think like this, only
the bad apples.
It is so difficult to find genuine friendships with single women
because 1) they are suspicious of your intentions 2) their
intentions are suspicious and they impose pre-conditions that want
to be showered with attention.
First, we men don't really have the luxury of choosing whom we
want to be because we are always forced paired with somebody we are
not interested in. I can understand that some women are eager to
get married because of age but they must understand too, the liking
must be mutual, the guy is not interested.
Second, when we men find somebody we are interested in, why is
it that woman we are interested in always tend to get people to
attack us and want us to look miserable, only then she thinks we
are genuine and honest in liking them? I dislike this kind of
approach. I have never come across men who like their women, get to
start a relationship from frienship (not all friendship). Instead
it has to be a bidding war and we men have to chase to woman like a
trophy case? Why must be like this? With my previous girl friend, I
had to go through a barrage of humiliating trials, where I was
mocked and insulted by her friends. And now, it seems that it is
repeating again on those women that I like. They really bargain
very high. Why can't everything be simple and start from honest
friendship, makan together and watch movie?
You did not do a thorough job of FOCUSING AND SINKING INTO YOUR
WORK.
If you did, why would you even be bothered by who and who did
what to you?
Why would you even care who mocked or what insults were hurled
towards you?
Your focusing needs more focus!
