Marry a man who loves you more than you love
him
Dear TR, Temasek Review
I was browsing the NECDC newsletter “Spring” Mar/Apr 2010 when I
came across an article “United for Life” about Mdm Cynthia Phua’s
view on marriage, family and love.
I have no problem with her views on marriage and family but what
struck me as unusual is her parting advice to unmarried women, to
quote “Marry a man who is crazily in love with you and
who loves you more than you love him”.
I don’t care if Mdm Cynthia Phua loves her husband less than he
loves her, but coming from a Member of Parliament and a woman role
model to boot, her advice is indeed unbecoming and imparting wrong
values to younger generation.
As a married woman myself, I love my husband as much as he
loves me, and that to me is the very essence of a happy
married life. Anything short of this may lead a man to stray out of
wedlock, and we have only ourselves to blame.
In this new generation of feminine rights and equality of the
sexes, we must give our love as much as we receive. I
hope that her spouse will not be disappointed with her or have any
regrets.
Yours sincerely,
Wendy Tan
Happily Married for the past 10 years
Women like you are a rare breed these days!
