Regardless whether you like it, love is a power play. The party
with lower interest is the boss and will mostly get his/her way in
times of differences. If Brad loves Angelina 95% and Angelina loves
Brad 85%, Angelina has the power. Why? Simply because Angelina will
have less to lose in the event of a break up. Similarly, Brad will
have the power when the situation is reversed.
What's the use of power in romantic relationships? Well, you
usually never get what you want or deserve, you'll only get what
you negotiate. To be able to negotiate for what you want, you need
to have power over the other party. Once your relationship have
surpassed the so-called honeymoon period, you will need to rely a
lot more on negotiation to get what you want. When there are
differences, one party will have to give in. When both parties
refuse to give in, the divorce lawyers call that irreconcilable
differences (that's legitimate grounds for divorce in the eyes of
the law). I don't think you will ever want to get into that
situation. The moment of truth will come when you get into your
first big disagreement with her, usually the one who gives in first
does not have the power. That's the power of love, isn't that
sweet?
