I went out with a girl for dinner. I refer to the outing as a
date, and she days it is just a meal.
I went out with a girl for movie. I refer to the outing as a
date, and she days it is just a movie.
I went out with a girl for dinner, than i went over to her
place, watch a movie with her, slept with her. I refer to the
outing as a date, and she days it is not a date.
so... when is it a date?
It only becomes a date when both parties planned it to
be a date.
Does the girl even know what is a date in the first place or
not? 
Truly you have been going out with alot of "kampung" girls.