friendship vs relationship

R3SsH|n SG

would you regard friendship more than relationship?

lets say there is this person who is a friend of yours. you start to like him/her but the only thing holding you back from telling him/her is that you are afraid things will never be the same after you told him/her.

this causes an awkward situation especially if you see each other on a regular basis.

would u rather keep quiet and hope that its just a passing phase or would you go all out and burp it out?

expression or contentment?

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Ya. I have this problem.. haiz.. Crying or Very sad I choose friendship.

The reason why I choose friendship is because of my past experience.

I confest to two girl but both 1 rejected me, another 1 break off in less than 1month(reason: she wanted a christian partner )

In both cases it took soooo long to mend the broken friendship..

browniebaobao SG

experienced that before..

i kept quiet.. bcos we are too 'fren' liao and bcos of the hurt i got from my past relationships makes me fear of getting into another.

but anyway, i took around 8-10 months to confess to him, but until now, i still have not asked him how he feel towards me.

anyway, it's over. I have moved on.

R3SsH|n SG

did u considered friendship or relationship when you ask them to be your steady?

R3SsH|n SG

so u did put relationship ahead of friendship.
when does relationship outweights friendship?

browniebaobao SG

altho i really liked him a lot, but i have always treated him like a fren. bcos i dun want it to affect our friendship.. so i dare not make any deliberate move..

i think it's better to be frens ba.. coz frens can be forever.. after quarrel can still be frens.. but couples after break le most probably will go separate ways, leaving each other feeling scarred or hate each other for life. even if there's no hatred, they wun be frens like they were before they got attached.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

of course is relationship lor.. Crying or Very sad

R3SsH|n SG

but u still confessed to him?
what were u thinking when u did that? you were probably risking seeing him again and talking to him again and spending all those time with him again. why would u wanna risk all that?

i think this is a pessimistic view on broken relationship...not all broken relationships always end up in hatred...

R3SsH|n SG

but they weren't very close friends right? those you have known for years?

browniebaobao SG

juz wanted to get it off my chest..

of course, if the liking wasn't deep at all, i wun be stucked for that long.. and wouldn't have the urge to confess..

true, not every r/s ends with hatred.

but unfortunately my last r/s leave me with hatred until now.

Patrik SG

Depression.
Laughing

R3SsH|n SG

wad u mean?

Patrik SG

Pondering between contentment and expression,thus emerges depression.
Laughing

M©+square SG

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage.”

R3SsH|n SG

u give me strength? Laughing

M©+square SG

If you do not express, you fear of your future. You lack strength.

So you're willing to settle for the second best, which is considered 'consolation' since you cannot bring yourself to express your desires.

Friendship or Relationship?
Can this 'potential relationship' be forsaken or forgotten? If yes. Then friendship is the best choice.

Otherwise, it's your decision.

ermintham SG

Originally posted by M©+square:

If you do not express, you fear of your future. You lack strength.

So you're willing to settle for the second best, which is considered 'consolation' since you cannot bring yourself to express your desires.

Friendship or Relationship?
Can this 'potential relationship' be forsaken or forgotten? If yes. Then friendship is the best choice.

Otherwise, it's your decision.

wat do u mean? i dun get u

browniebaobao SG

i'll use this as my siggie. Wink

Darkness_hacker99 SG

2 years count anot? Neutral

R3SsH|n SG

no.