Where (or how) do you think our relationship is
going?
Many women just can't wait to get around to the "relationship
discussion." They want to know how their guy is feeling about the
relationship in general, so they sit him down to get the details.
The problem is that this discussion makes many men feel pressured
-- and restless. This question is pretty vague, and a guy may not
understand what you're actually asking him. For example, is this
the precursor to discussing marriage, or do you simply want to know
whether he's content with the relationship between you?
Of course a man will have opinions of where the relationship is
going, just like women do. The problem is that after being prompted
to address a heavily weighted issue like this, some men fear that,
depending on how they answer this question, they might be in for an
intense, uncomfortable discussion.
They could feel judged and criticized, and if this happens too
often, it can easily make them drift away. Instead of pinning all
of your expectations on a forced discussion, try to keep
communication open in the relationship -- all the time. That way,
you can both express your feelings as they arise, and have them
heard and attended to naturally.
