Originally posted by FireIce:
the big 
all the
time..........
who pays for the dinner and movie on dates?
here's an article i came across and would like to share with u
all....
and hope can make use of the tips here to lighten tt awkward
situation.....
[b]Date One: Yes, Make the Offer
Most men want to treat on the first date. He wants to show that he
is in fact a gentleman. This fine young man will reach for the
check when the conversation has settled a bit, pretend to check the
figures, and take out his wallet. What should you do? Ask if you
can contribute by paying the tip or part of the bill (be prepared
just in case he takes you up on it). This is your way of
acknowledging his gesture. We just want the offer. A sweet
thank-you is also appreciated. That is all men really want -- some
simple recognition. But, do not go further than making the offer --
do not insist on paying your half, even if you're having the worse
time of your life. This is like saying to the guy, "I could never
be interested in you."
Dates Two and Three: Actually Making a
Contribution
Out for dinner once again, maybe a movie this time, or bowling or a
dance club, etc. Some money is being spent somewhere. Again offer
to contribute. Again say thank you when he insists on paying.
However, this time find some way to make a contribution. Examples:
Buy the popcorn at a movie, buy a round of drinks at a bar, buy
some ice cream after dinner. Many guys will say that is not
necessary, but it is definitely appreciated.
Dates 4 and Beyond: Time to Insist
Most men like when the women take the wheel for a night or two.
Once you are "dating," you should plan a night and insist on
paying. This gesture again is a nice way to recognize that you
appreciate your guy being generous on dates one through, and now it
is your turn. A nice guy will offer to contribute and it is okay to
reject his contribution.
Variables
(1) You make more money than your guy; (2) your guy is a student;
or (3) your guy is unemployed. In these cases, I think, you will
need to insist of contributing more. Most guys still want to treat
despite these circumstances, but you need to at least let him know
that you are willing to pay. Offer a couple of times. If he insists
on paying, let him for a couple of dates, say thank-you and
recognize that you are with a true gentleman, one who wants to
treat him women right even when it is tough on his bank
account.
Of course there are the guys who will readily take up your offer to
pay, ask you for half of the bill, or claim that they left their
wallets at home and ask you to pay the whole thing. I can't speak
for these men, and hopefully, you ladies won't have to speak to too
many of them.
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wow! suddenly so generous come and share good stuff ah? what's
cooking? 
