This Article has got to be one of the Best in relationship
issues.
People, if you're too proud to even address certain issues or
problems you have. At least read it.
Kudos to brother Callan 
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The third kind of people in a relationship after Givers and
Takers
One of the biggest traps I've seen people who are unsuccessful in
relationships fall into is they believe there are only two kinds of
people: Givers and Takers. As a result, they usually end up being
used.
In the Giver/Taker mindset, Givers always end up with Takers and
Takers always end up with Givers. The reason is simple: A Giver
can't take because then, by definition, he or she is no longer a
Giver. And a Taker can't give because then, by definition, he or
she is no longer a Taker.
Takers are selfish, Givers are unselfish. It's a great
arrangement... for the Taker. Buy very abusive for the Giver.
Eventually, after years of abuse and pain, the Giver leaves, while
the Taker blames everything on the Giver. The Giver then spends an
indefinite period asking him or herself some version of: "What did
I do wrong? How could I have made it work? If only I'd done 'X'
(been more patient, more understanding, more supportive, etc.) it
would have worked out."
I know, because I used to be a Giver. I went from one Taker to the
next, getting abused over and over.
Then one day I had the good fortune of meeting a woman who was very
successful with men.
I asked her how she commanded a man's respect, and kept it, hoping
I could learn something that would help me out of my emotionally
abused rut to use with the next woman I got involved with.
She said, "Callan, it's really simple. Every one in abusive
relationships thinks there's only two groups of people: Givers and
Takers. But there's a third group. And once you know, understand
and 'get' the third group on a gut level, it all starts to fall
into place and your relationships start to work out. The third
group is Sharers. Sharers know in their mind, their heart and their
soul they deserve to receive as well as give. Sharers know, over
the long run, the relationship will balance out to be 50/50 give
and take. Sharers have a healthy self respect and they expect their
partner to treat them with respect, the same respect they give
their partner. When they don't, a Sharer leaves."
"Were you ever in an abusive relationship?" I asked.
"Sure. I was with a MCP who blamed me for every problem he had.
Then one day someone explained the concept of Givers, Takers and
Sharers to me. It hit me hard, but I finally 'got it.' I went to my
MCP Boyfriend of five years and told him I was leaving. He said,
'I'm trying. You just don't understand.' I said, 'You're wrong. I
DO understand. And that's why I'm leaving. I deserve better than
you.' And I left."
I hope you don't fall into the trap of being a Giver or a Taker.
Think about the concept of being a Sharer, become one, and start
enjoying relationships the way your deserve to.