Hence the confusing conundrum. So which is it? What do women
want? We want the best of both worlds. Call it a nice jerk if you
will, but I prefer the term sensitive bastard.
Johnny Depp was voted "Sexiest Man Alive" by People magazine in
2004. The key to his sex appeal? He is the ultimate sensitive
bastard. On one hand, he has a bunch of tattoos, smokes like a
chimney, marches to the beat of his own drum, and never feels the
need to explain or apologize for his behavior; on the other hand,
he is a family man who adores his wife, and plays Barbie with his
daughter and trucks with his son.
What's my point? He exhibits the qualities that women like about
the jerk, such as confidence, a backbone, and a devilish twinkle in
his eye, as well as the sensitivity and kindness of the nice guy,
without falling into either of these traps. By pointing this out, I
am not implying that you should emulate his behavior; I am merely
citing him as one of many possible examples of the sensitive
bastard. So take a cue from the man and learn to walk that fine
line.
The way to keep the woman of your dreams interested in you and only
you is to be sensitive while retaining your masculinity. Know when
to be kind and understanding, and when to stick to your guns, so to
speak. For instance, if she just got fired and is devastated, that
is when you should be her shoulder to cry on and do something nice
for her like rent her favorite comedy on DVD and watch it with her.
On the other hand, if she decides to redecorate your place while
you're away and you return to find that your bedroom is now really
"pretty," it's time to sit your little woman down and let her know
that she really shouldn't have.
The key is to avoid both extremes of the nice guy and the jerk.
Don't be at her beck and call, but be there for her when she needs
you most. Don't cheat on her, but go out with the guys and don't
let her give you any grief about it. Don't ever let her think that
she can tell you what to wear, eat, think, or say, but listen to
and respect her opinion. You get the idea.
This way, she knows that you love her but that she can't walk all
over you, which is the key to her loving and respecting you. Throw
in a romantic gesture or two every now and then and she'll be so in
love, she won't know what hit her. Think about it, if you give her
the best of both worlds, why would she ever want to look
elsewhere?
You have to trust me on this one because most women don't even know
that this is what they want, but unless they are users or
man-haters, it is. So don't listen to any more crap about women
wanting Mr. Sensitive and falling into the arms of Mr. Jerk; be the
sensitive bastard they can't get enough of.
