Yunhaier SG What would you do if you discover that this girl/guy you really like is sadly attached. (Not married, just attached as in BGR). How many of you people would still go after her? And how many of you people would give up immediately after knowing?
IamAngeline SG It gonna depends if I see the person i like is happily attached sure i will just want to see him happy not to destroy his happiness.. in another way if he's unhappy in his current bgr, i wun take advantage of the situation but still i will stay by his side to support him and help him(even to patch with his gf after argument or what )until the day and time when we can really get together or for me confess... but if we had to remain friends i wouldn;t mind... at long as i can by his side that would be enuff.. he happy, i'll be happy too..it may be difficult.. but still i try my best to acheive that
jOhO SG you know what, i'm still trying to come to terms with this. it's almost like i CAN'T decide what i would do in such a situation. one of the rare things in life that i would hem and haw about. sorree yun, i can't answer this, i'm still battling it out between my heart and my head. and no, i'm not going thru it now, it's the "opinion" that i'm battling with.
sgboy2004 SG dun forget, your presence by his side can tip either way... in a moment of despair, pple sought for comfort, and u might become his target, and going into a relationship...and hence indirectly breaking his r/s with his gf... On the other hand, a third perspective can be enlightening to a person in the state of confusion and frustration... it might help to patch up his r/s wif his gf. Careful how it will tip...left or right. ________________________ Manager, Ministry of Information
Yunhaier SG The likelihood of you being used as a substitute is there, however I respect your decision.
Yunhaier SG I agree its the opinion you are battling. Don't worry lar... if similar situations were to come... you have ME to help (or make things worst ) and solve you out... Hiak hiak. By the way you hurt your knee? Take care eh?
IamAngeline SG yah true... if he only treat me really as a friend i wun force it either too... if there's a necessary for me to leave his side i'll do so also... I have ever been thru this but quite ok lah.. he's with his gf now happily... and i'm with mine loh... so why not? Still when it comes to this situation it will have to depend on one thing: consciousness
jOhO SG eheh i know u are more than willing to help. but if i had such a problem here i dun think i'd post it out here. i have an issue with pride. everything i sort it out myself, seldom realying on pple. i guess a bit of objective advice never hurts, but aiyah, i know myself best lar. ehehhe u know the typical, can advice other pple, but cannot advice myself, or won't accept other pple's advice? that's me! *sigh* yeah hurt my knee 2 weeks ago, still hurts man. playing volleyball at sentosa. damn sway.. ahhaa
sgboy2004 SG mi twisted mi ankle badly last december too...tat's how mi found sgforums and the rest is history... ________________________ Manager, Ministry of Information
Yunhaier SG I understand.. because this is exactly what I could do also. I am someone who rather seek for people's listening ear and perhaps a few word of wisdom to say about my situations. It has to be a short, meaningful statement, then I will listen and that's it, not those long naggy ones that I always do. Don't have to tell me you got problem lar... just pm me saying 'I want a listening ear.' Then a trip down to kopitiam or something is guarantee for your ranting. Rest more at home lar. Now got SARS, home the safest... I think.
Doenitz SG Originally posted by Yunhaier: What would you do if you discover that this girl/guy you [b]really like is sadly attached. (Not married, just attached as in BGR). How many of you people would still go after her? And how many of you people would give up immediately after knowing? [/b]Refer to my earlier posting http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=25172 I will not go after her,but I will still keep in contact with her and keep my options open. I know it is devastating-I personally know how it feels-but gradually time will heal the pain...
M©+square SG To me....i'd prefer to let it be. Cos there's no guarantee that even though i got her after her former r/s, it'll end off well...sometimes, it's worse off. I guess in everything, people come and go. Of cos to fight or give up the person whom i like is one thing. But to bear the consequences of not even having a chance of being friend again is another. I'd rather be her friend then nothing at all. I'd prefer numbing me-self then to suffer in silent, waiting for somebody.
