what he say may be true, but what he say has harmful
consequences to the other person. is it right to say all you like,
knowing it will cause grave harm to the other person?
so while i never denied the truth of his words, those words don't
do anyone any good so is in fact worthless. since Cai's words have
harmful implications to the other person, he is in fact being very
irresponsible, which is what i'm saying. why say things to harm
people only to make yourself look good?
let's add to the story by saying that you're so drunk you drove
off without even knowing what you're doing. of course the police
won't buy your story, but if we suppose it were true and somehow it
can be proven, then the only fault you have is with drinking in the
first place.
that leads us to ask who is that idiot who made you drink in the
first place. again, you may say it is entirely up to you to choose
not to drink in the first place. but what if the person asking you
to drink is an important customer who can either make or break your
business? do you still say no?
life is never so simple and we are seldom a master of our own
wishes. as the chinese saying goes "we in society cannot do as we
please".
In any case, what is important for us is to realise that many of
our actions are affected or influenced by people around us. So when
we see a person's actions and judge him on the basis of those
actions, do we also see his accomplice edging him on by the side?
isn't he the more sinister of the two?
remember the murder case involving some Mr Ler who managed to
convince some kid to commit murder on his behalf? we cannot condone
the kid who committed the murder, neither should we condone Mr
Ler.
so while it is his and his decision alone to unveil himself, we
must not forget that it was cai tao kuay who edged him on.
