Why men should not marry.
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All the older guys I know, guys that are 55 and older are telling
me the same story; don't do it. It just turns to crap no matter
what you do. They'd rather be independent. At best it's a tedious
bore. At worst a living hell with financial ruin thrown in for good
measure. The problem is that when you're young, you just naturally
fall into this mind set where your whole self image is based on how
women regard you, and so you spend all your money and energy trying
to make yourself acceptable to them. Then later in life the shine
wears off and you finally realize that you've wasted yourself on a
bunch of crap.
Children - "the ultimate human experience"
I couldn't even begin to list all of the older folks i know from
work or through my family with kids they either don't get along
with, are disappointed in, or are so distant as to not even be a
factor in each other's lives.
I'm really skeptical about the idea of children as "the ultimate
blessing." How many friends do you have with little or no
meaningful contact or relationships with their parents?
I would wager the statistic for happy child/parent relations would
be as bad, if not worse, than the marriage numbers. Who wants to
deal with TWO bitter, unfulfilling relationships?!
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Marriage is a sham for men. There is no benefit. If you are about
to get married, think it over. Don't let your dick do your thinking
for you. Don't let your punch-drunk I'm in love euphoria put you on
auto-pilot. You will wake up in a hell of a hangover staring at
this woman who will control your life.
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A few years ago I went through a major depression over this until I
started talking to all the older guys I knew...and they all said
the same thing; "don't do it, it's shit. Even when it's not bad,
it's shit". You end up being closely tied to an old woman. Think
about that. I can go to Europe or the south seas tomorrow. If I was
married I wouldn't have the money and I'd have to ask HER
permission. Don't get married unless you are absolutely religiously
in love with her. Like carry her sick aged body to the toilet and
wipe her ass and be happy to do it kind of love.
What I'm saying is that human beings are nasty weak treacherous
creatures that are for the most part totally untrustworthy.
Experience is my basis for this statement, both mine and others who
I know or who have written reliable histories. If you can find a
woman to be your companion who is not treacherous, a deceitful
little actress, a sly whore or a manipulative nag or a shrieking
hag, then you are among the lucky few. Congratulations. I hope your
luck continues to hold out.
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Ok, assume that you will end up divorced and won't see your kids
and lose half of your assets, how different is that from being
married?
Most married guys I know are working their asses off to pay bills,
rarely to get to spend time with their families, mediocre or no sex
life, and have wives that spend as much of their money as
absolutely possible.
My problem with marriage isn't a fear of divorce; it is that the
whole thing sucks divorce or not.
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What security is there for men in marriage?
If I cheat on my wife, she gets half my shit.
If she cheats on me, she still gets half my shit.
Why the fuck should i get married?
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Fuck it man, it's easy to get depressed about not being married
when we live in a society that constantly feeds us the image of the
happy couple. It's one big lie. The happiest person alive is
someone who isn't a prisoner dependent on another human being... We
only have 80 or so years on this rock to achieve true freedom
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Very few marriages last nowadays, and even guys older than me are
telling me not to even think about it... It's a grossly overrated
source of happiness. And for the 80% that do go through divorce, it
will financially ruin you for life. Period. You can take your best
10 earning years from say, 35 to 45 and take all the wealth you
would have accumulated and flush it down the toilet. Because it
will go to her and her lawyer. If it happens naturally and it's
good then great, good luck. But the worst thing is to force it, to
make gross exertions and ignore all sorts of red lights going off
just to be hooked up and "normal". Get some hobbies. Relax. Hang
out. Enjoy. Take life as it comes.
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As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry.
After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used
strategy. here it is:
1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.
2. Guy delays.
3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and
eliminating his friends.
4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something
better than what he has.
5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good
thing in the guy's life.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.
Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self.
Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser
husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain
dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy
becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years
old.
