
I agree....
I have specifically NOT enrol my sons in a super school, resisted
all temptation to get tutors for them, encouraged them to take up
hobbies, enjoy life, listen to music, watch MTV, smell the roses,
etc....
but I have also instilled on them the virtue of being responsible
for their own life and chart their own course.
One of the responsibilities of parenthood is mentoring and
facilitating. I think that this two aspects are largely
neglected.
What's the point of pushing the kids to perform if all the parent
does is to drive them from point to point?
Where's the love and friendship between the child and the
adult?
Where's the understanding of what the need of a child is?
My two sons fall within the top 15% of their educational level,
hardly under any form of pressure from their parents, enjoy life to
the limits, laugh at the jokes of Homer Simpson, recognize as peer
leaders within their classes, all done without outside help.
The wang4 zhi3 cheng2 long2 syndrome is a very dangerous thing if
the parent is not realistic. By and large, the huge amount of
education and enrichment courses available in private schools
appeal only to the vanity of the parent in wanting them to aspire
for their children to be child-prodigies. Just the title of some of
them disturbs me, those that go like: I am a genius, so are you
type