Gotta think about the officer's position also. He's also caught
under those higher ranking OCs who expect him to perform his
duties. If he gives an order, follow it. If you don't think u can
do it, explain it to him. Here, in this case, either 1. u get into
trouble, sabo ur entire platoon, or 2. he still makes u do it. If
2. die trying to do what he told u to do. Anything goes wrong, his
fault, he can push the blame up the chain of command if he
likes.
Most impt bit about an officer is not whether he can relate to his
men or not. But good judgement. IMO, if he is clear headed and can
make the correct decisions, then he is a good officer. If you don't
follow a legal order, then i guess he's not the one at fault.