A guy
friend loves his best girl friend whom only considered him as a
best friend wrote her a note saying he has to distant himself from
her cuz of the pain he had to deal with of not able to have
her.
After reading his note, she replied to him. She says he can take
all the time off he wants but pleaded never to leave her for good
or end the friendship. Cuz his absence breaks her heart and him
being gone for good is like a missing puzzle piece in her life. She
even said she is angry at herself for not able to return his love
for her. She will wait for him to come back to her when he is ready
to resume the friendship. This guy is her only guy friend she
treasured. She felt bad for the whole situation and she cried a lot
after reading the note. They had been friends for 10
years.
Is it a good or bad thing? Why cry over a guy whom u dont even love
as more than friend? Would appreciate if someone can give a more
neutral feedback rather giving negative comments like
"friendzone".
That is assuming that her tears
represented love for you, in which I reckoned that it may not
necessarily be so.
You may be doing this out of affection, but symbolically, what
you might crave is the desired affection you are been unable to
obtain successfully thus far. Unconsciously, you might be secretly
hoping that something triggers inside her, mystically
blossoming into a relationship somehow. Naturally if possible, but
more critically, the affection must be mutual.
Though you may claim that you have no motive behind your action,
but I will quote what you mentioned in your earlier post:
[quote] Cuz i rather she take my money than she ask
from others who would most probably try to advantage of her
[/quote]
That appears to be a warped form of elaborated bribery to keep
your woman at bay from other men. I am not attacking the
genuineness of your friendship with her - neither am I concluding
your action to an aspect of moral behaviour (between 'rightness' or
'wrongness'). It is your
thinking process... the rationale of your action that doesn't quite
go in sync with your action per se.
My greatest curiosity is not
about the act of helping a friend in need, but why the need for
'overly indebtedness' on your part to help a friend in need? When
you combine this with unrequited affection from the past, you
basically created loads of self confusion via having self
justifying principles to effectively disguise the true nature of
your motivation.
You may have a coveted need - your need to feel
needed by her. So whatever responsive cue
she exudes could be masqueraded in your mind as a form of love
affection easily.
And this is the point I am
driving at; her responses are not necessarily driven by
love
You may disagree, but given the fact that the fate on the
outcome of your 'relationship' has already been decided by her -
which somehow still doesn't give birth to any structural formation
of a BGR regardless of the amount of positive feelings, regards or
responses she has for you - the
unfortunately reality is that she may not be into you
romantically.
Indebtedness is not love; you just cannot convert an apple into
orange because these are two separate things. What you see as love for her could be a
pursuit of blind obsession to get her affection, which may turn out
to be a mirage of a karmic relationship. 
Cheers
