would you quit your job ?.......

last SG · 2013-12-11T11:21:37+00:00

You should quit your job and rest for a few months then start lookign for jobs . "job hopper" is used only if u change jobs frequently when doesnt last long....

Andylim348 SG

would you quit a job if you were facing the below situation?

I have been working very hard in a job for 2 years, and putting up with snide and sarcastic remarks from my boss. My boss sometimes just scold me.

I was working very hard hoping for an promotion but did not get it. I feel sad because my self-identity is deeply tied into my work. Now I am really afraid that i would be passed over for promotion.

I am very unhappy in my work place. I have been taking anti-depressants for the past 3 months and even thought of committing suicide. I know that I am not a lazy person but my boss always aim me. I no longer feel like working hard or doing work for which I am not appreciated for. I really find it hard to go work every morning.

I tried hard at work to recruit new students but always get marked and scolded.. if I quit, I also don’t know where I can go…..

My parents know I have depressions and taking ant-depressants and advise me just to quit my job and take a break

But I am very afraid that if I do not stay for at least 3-4 years, in the future, I would be marked as a “job-hopper”. At work , my colleagues do not really help me; I feel terrible.

Summer hill SG

Are you a teacher?

shirt_less SG

yes you should just quit your job considering the fact that you are actually taking anti depressants medicine now!

A job is just a job. There is no point killing yourself over it.

I have encountered all these before, and I will not take all these nonsense and affect my own well being just to stay on the job. I will just move on.

Who says a person must stay on the job for 3-4 years? So long you prove yourself to your potential employer and justify your reason for leaving, you still can find a new job.

For your health sake, please just leave the company. I am sure if you have the right attitude you can do better elsewhere.

M the name SG

Does Depression Go Away On Its Own ? : http://bigthink.com/devil-in-the-data/does-depression-go-away-on-its-own

Jwjs2011 SG

I do not understand why are you staying on a job that you are not happy with? You can only maximise your potential when you are happy with your job and life. Is it worth to carry on? Think it over......

The depression you are having is due to your job and it is going to cause more problem for you if you carry on.........issue like health, family, relationship, friends are all going to be affected by your job unhappiness.

Ask yourself, what do you want................that is the most important............

FireIce SG

amazing u can tahan for so long

if u think u cant get satisfaction from the job, yes, u shd quit and try somewhere else

not worth it at the expense of your physical and mental health to hold on

speakoutfor SG

You are showing perseverance and maturity by staying put in a job. Glad that you are putting other considerations like not wanting to be considered a job hopper, shows that you know what you are doing. But after 2 years, no promotion, underappreciated by a nasty boss and under stress, maybe its time to change job.

At the moment you do not know which job to seek. So suggest you start logging your CV into monster.com and check around to see which job suits you. Don’t quit your job just yet, find a job then quit.

Life is tough dude, if you just quit and stay at home, means you just gave up in life. For this reason you have to withstand the stress before you can find a job.

Interesting that you talk about your self identity. Yeah most people ties their identity to certain intrinsic values, like work, relationships, money and religion. So likely is your problem is that you don’t know what meaning is your life. Why? Because you got no objective, no goals and no vision. Probably your vision is to excel at work but work is becoming dull and dread. This is what is causing your depression. This is very common, as I read in newspaper about a guy in Malaysia who has a 10 year relationship with his gf. But when his childhood sweetheart decides to break up with him, all hell broke lose for him because his whole life is her. So his life became meaningless, he murdered her in rage and tried to kill himself. Today he is in a hospital under remand and waiting to be charged for the murder of his girlfriend. So you must decide what is good for yourlife. Don’t just live for one objective for your life (like that malaysian dude), in your case is your job. Look for several objectives to live. Like, go seek new friends, go play basketball in the weekends. Do something adventurous. Take up new hobby like photography. Count your blessings, like your family, they love you as a son.

Medicine is only a temporary solution. You got to find the root cause of your depression. Go talk to a psychologist or get involve in religious activities that can free your soul from the bonds of worldly life. I give you an example. One of my friend, he got frustrated at his job. One day, he found out about this ship that sails around the world to help the poor understand about education. The ship has its own library and reguarly docks ports of major third world countries, so the poor people can come in and read books about the world. He volunteered as a crew with a bunch of foreigners, made up of europeans, americans, australians, asians, africans, etc. After 6 months, he came back, and he felt refreshed. He realised how good his life compared to the poor people of other nations and he was glad he made new friends and found a new refresh way of looking at life also was able to help other less fortunate people.

jojobeach SG

What is the size of your current company?

You should talk to your HR first and request for a transfer to another department working for a different boss.

With your current condition, its best to rethink your career path. YYou'll need to accept the fact that you are not suitable for a high stress job.

An effective worker adds more value than a hard worker who is ineffective. Understand your worth in the company is key.

Your parents are more concerned about your well being than your income.

Beatie SG

How old are u ? and ur job is ?

zulkifli mahmood SG

I tried hard at work to recruit new students but always get marked and scolded.. if I quit, I also don’t know where I can go…..

You're the customer service / consultant? If you are getting bitter inside..move to other company for career move that is.

zulkifli mahmood SG

Andy, this was written by you within this topic…

How am I paid in comparison with my peers?

” I just want to get a perspective of my salary range. Am I reasonably well-paid or I am underpaid?

I am 28 years old and a degree holder, with about 4 years of full-time work experience, in private education industry, I do both student recruitment and student services.

My take-home pay is 2.4 K, I completely do not have any commissions, but it is still kind of regarded as a “sales” job. My admin work load is very heavy. There is no year-end bonus or AWS, just a Chinese New Year Bonus, the most i can expect to receive is 1.7 months (if I am a top performer and management really like you. I do not expect to receive a good bonus next chinese new year because I recently argued with my boss and I got a warning letter.

The problem is sometimes, people seem to earn more than me. I spoke to one diploma holder in electrical engineering with also about 4 years of working experience and his take-home pay is also 2.4K. Everyone I spoke to says that as a degree holder at the age of 28, I should be at least an assistant manager and making around 4K but that seems to be out of reach

In my first job, I worked there for 1 year 10 months. In my second job, I worked for about 6 months, in my third and current job, I worked about 1 year and 10 months.”

http://sgforums.com/forums/1501/topics/473729

Job hopping is very common among Singaporeans. Most of Singaporeans are job hoppers for good reasons….Better job prospects, better wage, better working hours / environments..etcs. So you are not going to be the only one. So what do you want in your job?

sgdiehard SG

Andy, this was written by you within this topic…

How am I paid in comparison with my peers?

” I just want to get a perspective of my salary range. Am I reasonably well-paid or I am underpaid?

I am 28 years old and a degree holder, with about 4 years of full-time work experience, in private education industry, I do both student recruitment and student services.

In my first job, I worked there for 1 year 10 months. In my second job, I worked for about 6 months, in my third and current job, I worked about 1 year and 10 months.”

http://sgforums.com/forums/1501/topics/473729

well done mahmood, for giving a more complete picture of the story, as written by the same person.

sgdiehard SG

would you quit a job if you were facing the below situation?

I have been working very hard in a job for 2 years, and putting up with snide and sarcastic remarks from my boss. My boss sometimes just scold me.

I was working very hard hoping for an promotion but did not get it. I feel sad because my self-identity is deeply tied into my work. Now I am really afraid that i would be passed over for promotion.

I tried hard at work to recruit new students but always get marked and scolded.. if I quit, I also don’t know where I can go…..

My parents know I have depressions and taking ant-depressants and advise me just to quit my job and take a break

But I am very afraid that if I do not stay for at least 3-4 years, in the future, I would be marked as a “job-hopper”. At work , my colleagues do not really help me; I feel terrible.

looking at the complete picture of your working experience, you don't seem to have spent enough time for your boss to think about a promotion, or what have you done to deserve a promotion?

What exactly is your job that should give you commission? Student recruitment or student enrollment?

You think you should be assistant manager, but does your boss think? Why do you think others are earning more? you know, some young graduates who are working as financial advisors are earning $10,000 a month, some working as school teachers are no having take home pay more than you do. stop comparing with others, find a job that you enjoy, not just the job that should give you the money you want. Work with your colleagues, and your boss, help them to do well, and don't expect others to help you get promotion.

If you don't change your attitude, you will never find the right job.

Craptalkone SG

misery loves company. waste your boss

jojobeach SG

Sales /customer service/consultant work is not suitable for everyone.

Some people thrive in such environment while many wilt.

Craptalkone SG

accumulate work experience, get education to upgrade yourself. then get a higher position in a new job, say goodbye to your company - that;s hwo you can esily work your way up the ladder. dont wait wait for promotion in one company - the wait can be very detrimental - the more you wait - the more you dont wanna leave becasue cannot let go.

there is more to life than just your career. ther is a life outside waiting for you.

Andylim348 SG

Actually, I want to be mentally sound, not going crazy

Andy, this was written by you within this topic…

How am I paid in comparison with my peers?

” I just want to get a perspective of my salary range. Am I reasonably well-paid or I am underpaid?

I am 28 years old and a degree holder, with about 4 years of full-time work experience, in private education industry, I do both student recruitment and student services.

In my first job, I worked there for 1 year 10 months. In my second job, I worked for about 6 months, in my third and current job, I worked about 1 year and 10 months.”

http://sgforums.com/forums/1501/topics/473729

Andylim348 SG

I am doing student recruitment. For nearly the entire industry, everybody is getting commission. I also took up a lot of projects to manage and coordinate. I never expected anybody to help me get a promotion, all along. I already stated my work experience at the beginning of my post. And nearly all other people I have spoken to say I am lagging very far behind

looking at the complete picture of your working experience, you don't seem to have spent enough time for your boss to think about a promotion, or what have you done to deserve a promotion?

What exactly is your job that should give you commission? Student recruitment or student enrollment?

If you don't change your attitude, you will never find the right job.

Andylim348 SG

Hey, look never mind, I will just talk to my psychiatrist on this. Thanks for everybody’s comments

zulkifli mahmood SG

Actually, I want to be mentally sound, not going crazy

Hmmm....work stress...burn-out...mental exhaustion. That happens when you are in sales/marketing. Do you like your job?