You are showing perseverance and maturity by staying put in a
job. Glad that you are putting other considerations like not
wanting to be considered a job hopper, shows that you know what you
are doing. But after 2 years, no promotion, underappreciated by a
nasty boss and under stress, maybe its time to change job.
At the moment you do not know which job to seek. So suggest you
start logging your CV into monster.com and check around to see
which job suits you. Don’t quit your job just yet, find a job then
quit.
Life is tough dude, if you just quit and stay at home, means you
just gave up in life. For this reason you have to withstand the
stress before you can find a job.
Interesting that you talk about your self identity. Yeah most
people ties their identity to certain intrinsic values, like work,
relationships, money and religion. So likely is your problem is
that you don’t know what meaning is your life. Why? Because you got
no objective, no goals and no vision. Probably your vision is to
excel at work but work is becoming dull and dread. This is what is
causing your depression. This is very common, as I read in
newspaper about a guy in Malaysia who has a 10 year relationship
with his gf. But when his childhood sweetheart decides to break up
with him, all hell broke lose for him because his whole life is
her. So his life became meaningless, he murdered her in rage and
tried to kill himself. Today he is in a hospital under remand and
waiting to be charged for the murder of his girlfriend. So you must
decide what is good for yourlife. Don’t just live for one objective
for your life (like that malaysian dude), in your case is your job.
Look for several objectives to live. Like, go seek new friends, go
play basketball in the weekends. Do something adventurous. Take up
new hobby like photography. Count your blessings, like your family,
they love you as a son.
Medicine is only a temporary solution. You got to find the root
cause of your depression. Go talk to a psychologist or get involve
in religious activities that can free your soul from the bonds of
worldly life. I give you an example. One of my friend, he got
frustrated at his job. One day, he found out about this ship that
sails around the world to help the poor understand about education.
The ship has its own library and reguarly docks ports of major
third world countries, so the poor people can come in and read
books about the world. He volunteered as a crew with a bunch of
foreigners, made up of europeans, americans, australians, asians,
africans, etc. After 6 months, he came back, and he felt refreshed.
He realised how good his life compared to the poor people of other
nations and he was glad he made new friends and found a new refresh
way of looking at life also was able to help other less fortunate
people.
Dear Speakoutfor, Thanks very much for your positive mentality, and
apologies for the late reply, but I still feel deeply lost
