So guys and girls would like your input on whether this is
normal or am I overthinking?
There is this girl I met online we became good folks to chat
with and exchanged numbers and moved on to whatsapp. A few months
have passed and I’ve asked her to come for my gig and she dropped
by and enjoyed the music 
that is the time when i first met her.
And the chats rolled but I think we were more into being friends
cause she wouldn’t want to meet cause she always said he’s busy, I
understand that she’s not into dating etc
So it was my birthday and she made sure she texted me sharp at
12:00 which for me felt really awesome that someone did that for
me.
So her birthday was just a few days after mine and this is
Scenario 1 were I plan to surprise her.
I got her a card, a handwritten letter and a wrapped gift. She
gave her address before hand so I knew where she lived, I reached
exactly at 12:00 on her door, placed them quietly on her doorstep
and left down stairs so I texted her to just come outside her door
to see the surprise.
She was ecstatic filled with joy and touched as she whatsapp’d
me when she saw them. I was downstairs and said to her ” I am only
down your block” she still texted me thanking me that no one has
done like that to her and surprise her.
As you guys know I already gave her the hint that i am just
downstairs, she skips the topic to talk about something else. Now
guys I don’t mean to use this strategy to get to see her. But as a
token of respect you can obviously see that she’s not even making
an effort to even see me and in turn I would personally wish her or
even she could atleast call me up for a thanks that would actually
mean alot for me even though however hell busy she is. She just
whatsapp’s me her thanks and concern, I waited for more half an
hour downstairs and then I am like “lets go home dude”
But we still continued chatting, again we’re just friends
Scenario 2 Is similar,
She was working very late at the start of the year and would
reach home like 9-10pm so I felt like holy shit and i decided to
get her a flower and a small card with a handwritten note for her
to wish her well and hoping that the job would end by the normal
6pm.
Again to surprise her Placed them on her doorstep again, Texted
her to check what’s on the door.
She’s again moved and touched by the concern, gives me her
thanks, and again i just waiting just down the lift side. I was
super thirsty, infact i even finished my work and got to bring in
the goods for her so i asked her If I could get some water. she
says she came to the door from the middle of a bath and next time
she can give me some water. So i really that she’s just shooing me
off.
Even as a friend.
Okay wow
Girls what do you feel if someone does that to you, would you
make an effort to atleast make that dude feel appreciate by
at-least directly telling him your thanks, or even if you are busy
doing something when he does this for you, would you atleast make
an effort to use the phone that you always whatsapp to call him to
say your thanks?
You have no idea that even hearing your voice would make that
guy’s effort all worth it
And Guys how about you? Do you think am i overthinking?
Thanks guys, infact I am not going to do this concern crap to
this woman ever anymore, I’d rather do it to someone that well
appreciates and understands basic courtesy.
Cheers!
