Dear Auntie Agony
U know I am in the state of confusion for the past one week. I
really don’t understand a guy’s thinking.
Here is how the story goes.
I was training at the gym with my friend when a guy randomly
approached me for my number. Things went well initially. We agreed
to meet up for dinner and movie. He gave me a good impression
through the dinner and movie.
I eventually agreed to watch the second movie with him, this
time a horror movie – since he was quite enthu about it.
Half way the movie, he asked me if I was feeling cold – and my
response was – nope I am ok since I am wearing a cardigan and
I wasn’t really frighten by the movie coz i like horror movie.
Perhaps he realized that he was getting no where , and he
suddenly whispered into my ears saying that he likes me alots and
wants me to be his girlfriend and held my hand. I swear my mind was
frozen for that second coz I was really engrossed into the
movie. He asked If I was angry when he held my hand.. I was
not angry , but just in state of shock. I did not pull my hand
away. But I realized I soon made a mistake.
He became v touchy the moment I didn’t let go of my hand. He
pulled me closer to him, and was kissing my hand and head through
the movie – which made me feeling super uncomfortable.
After movie, he continue to hold my hand and I did not let go
either coz I thought I could give this relationship a try.
He did not want to go home after movie and suggested supper near
his house. We took a cab home and in the cab, I did told him that
we were moving things abit too fast.. maybe we should slow down
thing alittle.
Anyway , after we alighted , we didn’t went supper coz he said
he was not hungry anymore. But he said he wanted to drink . so we
went to buy a can of beer for both of us at the nearby 7-11.
Initially, we were drinking at his void deck. Soon he tried to coax
me to go his house. I initially refused, but he pleaded me till I
had no choice but to his house.
So we went to his house and his parents were still awake when we
entered his house. We went to his room and there was no chair for
me to , and I had to sit on his bed while he go and showered
.
At the point, I was feeling v scared coz I felt unsafe and
started texting my friend to let her know where I was.
Anyway he was out from the shower and wants to cuddle in bed. ;x
which I agree but soon he was getting out of hand – where he tried
to kiss me and climbed on top of me which made ma panicked. I was
struggling to break free, and making a big fuss of wanting to go
home.
At this moment , my friend called, and I answered the call,
lying to him that it was my best guy friend who called to check on
me. he was really upset that I choose to pick up the call and
reported my whereabout to “him”. We had a minor argument –
where he eventually agrees to hold my hand, and hug and kiss me
only and he will not force me to go his house again until I am
ready.
He eventually sent me home , and at my void deck, he asked
for a goodbye kiss, which I did give him but I pulled away again
when he touched my breast. ;x anyway I went home and I sent
him a sorry text as I don’t meant to end thing lidat.
The next day, I went to meet my own friends , and most of them
discourage me to continue with him.
He didn’t not text me again until night time – around 9 plus to
confirm our meeting on tues( it was a ph) .
I did not reply as I was out with my friends. And by 11
pm, he got angry that I did not reply and he called me. actually I
was drafting a text to him, explaining that I just want to be
friend with him first and see how things go. But becoz he become
too aggressive , I was too afraid to answer his call.
Nevertheless, after some texting ( some exchanges of nasty
words here and there) – we decided to talk over the phone instead.
I tried to explain to him my standpoint. But to him, he keep
saying that I am hurting him, gave him a roller coaster ride and
playing with him. .. eventually he did give in to my request of
just being friends.
After that call, he did not text me again. I tried to contact
him – texting him if he still wants to meet on Tuesday, his reply
was “ he is already meeting his friend, sorry dear.. “.
After that text, I did
not hear from him again.
I really want to give this relationship a chance but I guess I
ruined it with my own hand.
What should I do if I want to win him back.. but yet I am afraid
that he is just after my body. L
You did not ruin
this relationship with your own hands; there is no relationship to
begin with, so how can you ruin something that doesn't exist?
Technically speaking, you didn't agree to be in a relationship just
yet.
You proceeded with intention of a prospective relationship, but
he proceeded with the intention of having an express queue to sex.
Your womanly instinct already sounded an alarm, which hinted you to
text your friend on your whereabouts. Emotionally, you are already
confused (together with some alcohol to bring about greater
judgment error) - however, I can sense that you still would like to
give him a chance (despite all that happenings and your friends'
disapprovals).
His own needs has overwhelmed him completely, insofar that your
needs are being compromised. He does not appear to be genuinely
interested in knowing you as a person, more than knowing how he can
satisfy himself physically.
He is looking for a quick physical fix; you have to figure if
this is what you want. 
Cheers
