don't give up on the relationship since you love your bf so
much... try to give him some sense of security by giving him more
assurances...
Hi guys, please hear me out and help me with my problem. I
really appreciate it.
My bf is a nice guy and we used to have amazing time together.
Like any other couples, we had our ups and downs and we worked
though it. But now he keeps pushing me further away by taking me
for granted. It's like he doesn't care any more, he doesn't want to
listen to what I have to say anymore. He makes me feel like I am a
pest! He took our rs for granted. I started feeling so lonely in
our rs. I am almost always the one who would try to fix things and
now I am tired of doing it on my own. He may be insecure too. The
other night, we went out for a drink with some friends and there
was this guy friend who has a big crush on me for quite some time
also joined. When my bf took me home, he looked upset and said
things like perhaps I am better off with that guy, that he is
better than my bf (that friend and I have a proper friendship and
my bf knows that). I know that guy friend is the type of guy many
girls would dream of marrying but I love my bf for who he is and I
never look at other guys. When he said that to me, it really hurt
because it was not the first time he would say such a thing. I was
upset to the point I wanted to tell him if he keeps saying such a
stupid thing, it will eventually drive me to that other guy! But of
course I didn't because it's not what I meant and I didn't want to
make him feel even worse.
I don't know why. My bf doesn't want to put in effort to make
our rs work but he is afraid that I may leave him for other guys.
It hurts and it's drowning.
I feel like my passion for him has faded due to how he has
treated me, treated the rs. I am really tired of trying to fix
things on my own. I don't want to keep asking myself what I do
wrong all the time anymore. I don't want to feel like I am on my
own in our rs anymore. I don't want to make myself a whining needy
gf by talking to him about it anymore. I want to give him another
chance, maybe last chance to realize what is happening before I
can't take it anymore and walk away. But I don't know what to do
anymore.
Anyone ever experienced the same thing? Any advice please?
