You know what you want for a
partner - that's highly personalized and relative. Your ideal
partner probably fits this picture in your quality world, but on
the reverse, others may not have the same picture of you in their
quality world. (Anyway, many people would appear to be ideal...
until the day they somehow get together).
My sense is that the reason
why you hold reservation towards pursing either one of these ladies
is likely due to your fear of rejection. Somehow, it seemed to me
that though you are 'picking the cherries' to decide who should you
be with, but when your targets have shown interest elsewhere, you
hastily back off and rationalize with yourself this that is
'morally wrong' - so let's move on.
Let me clarify something: the desire to move on isn't wrong; it
is the logic behind the usage of these quotes, masked as reasons,
that are fundamentally flawed.
There is nothing fundamentally or morally wrong with liking
someone. In fact, it is almost an involuntary urge or response that
one has little control over. Hence, when you claimed that you can't force
anyone to like you - that's essentially correct. But it is puzzling
on how you could claim this premise to be true for your situation
when you haven't even started doing anything for her to even
response to you in a manner where the statement is applicably true
(e.g. like she has rejected you and shared that you and her are
impossible).
It is akin to entering a restaurant and expressing that you are
not dining here because it probably looks expensive. My point is
that you haven't even ask/check about the price to make any
informed decision. Hence,
your behavior is probably a result of intra-personal issues that
you have problems to deal with (e.g insecurity, fear of rejection,
etc) and not likely because of the reasons you have stated in your
post. 
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I find your
question puzzling: who should you choose: X or Y?
Unless you are saying that these two girls fancy you and you
have a reasonable chance of entering into a relationship with
either one of them - if not, I don't see why you are implicated
with the 'burden' of choice.
What you are probably asking is who you should consider chasing.
However, if this question even pops out the way it does (and would
sound a little absurd) - then the likely answer is none.
I will give you an analogy: if I go to the market and buy a
fish, I would choose based on its freshness and price. Then I will
proceed to cook and eat it. There is no need for me to get feedback
or response from the fish. There is no requirement to build rapport
and develop relationship with it. It simply fulfill my survival
need. I do not need to consider fulfilling the fish's needs as any
attempt to fulfill the latter would automatically make me sound
absolutely absurd. Likewise, love isn't going to a market place to
buy fish, cook and eat it - you kind of need to get feedback,
response, develop rapport and relationship and on later stage,
fulfill certain mutual needs.
It is not a linear relationship.
In addition, there are no
immediate backup plans in genuine love. Such intricate systems to
formulate backup plans are purely psychological
mechanism to deal
with our own deeper issues (fear of rejection, fear of loneliness,
delusion, fantasy, etc).
Perhaps you are probably more
in love with the notion of having a relationship, than being in
love with the figure that you mentioned. You might want to figure
out if this is something you want to resolve
within.
Cheers
Totally agree...
Jango, personally I feel that you have to wait till the other
party reciprocate in order to "continue to like" that person.. If
you already knew what kind of person you r looking as a partner,
you have to work on it. To be able to express yourself
appropriately about your feelings and the sincerely probably would
be and aid to move her heart.. Even if things might not work out
for you, you knew you did your best. Loving someone is not just you
stop caring and concerning when she told you she don't feel the
same way as you. If you are unsure who you really likes, probably
just put the thoughts aside of who u really like and let your
emotions settled down before you decide to do anything to anyone of
them.
Loving someone isn't simple. However, no one could say what you
do is right and what's wrong. Follow what you think it's right.