I have a lot of troubles with my friends
Me and my friends, we used to go for a lot of drinking.
Back then, I just started working for 2 years, and was under a
lot of stress.
I was very badly bullied at work and felt very bitter with
work.
These group of friends, I’ve known them for more than 10 years
already.
We went drinking a lot, I thought nothing of spendding
money.
We went to a lot of sleazy bars and sleazy KTVs.
Within the past 2 years, I went to sleazy KTV for a total of 12 times, not including the last time,
because I left very quickly.
I used to think it was fun, and a new experience, but gradually
I lost interest in it.
I now feel that it is bad and it involves too much drinking.
The thing is, after the eighth and nineth trip, I started to
feel guilty; very guilty.
I felt as if I was evil.
So I started to avoid my friends.
I recently realised that I am not financially stable as I
thought I was, due to circumstances with my family and at home, and
I realised that I need to cut down on my spending , and start
saving more.
I have explained all this to my friends, but they don’t seem to
understand and they keep asking me to accompany them.
Those of you whom have read my earlier post at Aunt Agony would
understand what I mean.
There was a point of time when I got super-drunk and I had what
was called “blackout”, a alcohol related memory loss. I couldn’t
remember a single thing.
That was when I realised that I was going out of control.
So I stopped, but my friends still do not understand.
One thing I grew very uncomfortable with is that everytime I
went out with them to sleazy bars and sleazy KTVs, my friends would
start making all kinds of “requests” on my behalf; etc. “my friend
here would like to know…..”
I have become extremly frustrated with such things because I did
not want to make any such requests and have told them to stop, but
they keep doing it. I have no idea why; I did not ask them to make
such requests and did not want anything but they keep doing so. I
am really afraid that I would get into trouble because of this.
I felt even more frustrated that one of them, whom is not so
close to me, started using my own name as an alias.
I have no idea why he wants to do this, I don’t think I will get
into trouble, since he does not have my NRIC,
but I am afraid that he will pass my handphone number around and I
will get into trouble later on because of this. He is extremly
irresponsible and I am not sure if I am able to protect myself from
this; all advice is welcomed.
because of this, and because I want to lead a more healthier and
active lifestyle, I want to stop all this.
But I have very few friends.
I am hardly in contact with my NS and uni friends and I have
virtually nobody to talk to.
This is not an exaggregration.
In the past 2 months, I have gone to work, and after over-time,
gone back home to sleep and have virtually no social life.
I completely have nobody to confide my problems and issues with,
and I have told my mother about all this, but I need advice from
people of my own age.
What should I do?
