ok long story...few years back..i posted a post about the girl
who i like but she only treat me as friend..then got another girl
like me but is way younger..we ended together for about 1year but
we finish the relation peacefully.
Girl A: girl i like since sec 2 (8years ago) (22yrs old)
Girl B: girl i am with for 1 year (18 yrs old)
Boy A: my friend since sec 2 (22yrs old)
Ever since sec 2 i like girl A and confess once dueing that year
but she told me it too sudden and did not say anything
else.
We remain friend and at Poly year 3 i confess again and again
she did not say anything. I lied that i was drunk that why i send
her that kind of sms. Then she said nvm at least i am truthful to
myself. Somemore she tell me before to finish NS and study uni
first.
Girl B then tell me she like me around that time. So before i
enlisted i accepted her and was very happy with her. Every book out
go pei her and go out and etc.
But after 1 year we suddenly realize we got no time to talk and
go out due to her studies and my NS. So we said give other a break
for a while.
Then Girl A suddenly sms me once know i broke up and tell me to
cheer out. Ask me out and etc. I regain my hope for her and started
to chase her again.
Then about 5mths ago friends tell me Girl A like Boy A. I was
shocked and thought they joking. End up i begin to observe and
rwalize that they are really very close compare to last
time.
Yesterday visited Girl A house and realize the famoly and
relative know Boy A. I felt as though like a knife pock into my
heart.
I really dont know what to do. If you got read till here please
give me direction.
Girl A dont look pretty or sexy but somehow i just like her a
lot even now.
Girl B is cute looking and young and innocent. We still got hope
to tgt.
I dont know what to do now. Every month my sec schl clique meet
up. If Girl A and Boy A tgt then how i am to face them.
There is often a
someone 'we couldn't have' and this entity gradually transform into
a question mark in our emotional mind. We could toy with possible
imaginations, but I am not sure where it would land you.
What's pretty certain is that if she hasn't put you onto the
consideration list, then it is unlikely that your position would
drastically change unless her perception of you alters. Largely
because of that fact that the essence of our looks, personality and
behaviour towards people is usually quite consistent - which are
precisely the reasons why we are on or off the chart.
Surely it must be a challenge facing the lady you fancy in the
same clique of friends; however, this is just one aspect of your
challenge. The real challenge lies in facing a very real
possibility of waking up to a reality that this is someone that you
might never actually have. The fantasy stage of affection can be
rather addictive because everything appears surreal and perfect -
you might actually imagine her contacting you because she wants to
'give you a chance', but it is more likely to be one-sided on your
end.
And in this fantasy world - we tends to minimize hard facts
which are suggestive of points that are contrary to your form of
idealism. 
***
Putting two
women on the equation from your post only seem to suggest to me
that you perceived that A is a possible choice. What I mean is that
it is possible to like someone/something, while having the
awareness that possession is a different concept. For example, I
could love Ferrari, but purchasing one is way out of my financial
ability. Harboring the thought about having someone impossible is fantasy; the
frustration and pain we experience is likely due to the fact that
we desperately want something we cannot get,
while maintaining the idea that it is
within reach.
Love often gets buried itself
under layers of other feelings; more often than not, insecurity
being the thickest lot. Using similar analogy, if my friend bought
a Ferrari and I get upset over it - perhaps the wisdom lies not in
avoiding my friend, but what can I do with myself so that I can
also afford one in the future. Perhaps not the same model, but one
that I can truly learn to appreciate and love in reality - not just
a piece of fantasy dream.
Cheers
