Dear friends, I need your help on this. I have a female collegue
(younger than me but married), whom has been my good friend in
office for about a year. Suddenly our friendship soured recently
because of a string of events.
It started last mid December when she suddenly stopped talking
to me. Before that, we also chit chat and crack lots of silly
jokes. We often have lunch together too. However since late Dec 12,
she suddenly stopped talking to me for no reason. We did not have
quarrels and the week before that was all well. At first, I thought
I was sensitive, but later realised that I am the only one in
office she doesn't want to.
By early Jan this year, there was a time she looked apologetic
and offer me food. I decided to msg her and ask her why. She just
tell me sometimes she is busy and have no time to talk. And she has
some personal problems, so she was quite moody that time. Although
I still think something is fishy and not fully convinced of her
excuse, I just pass and forget about it.
We went back to old happy friendship again. One week later, she
told me she needed help on a friend's weeding gift. So I decided to
help her make one. After that, I was rather proud of my work and so
post pictures of the finished product online with her friend name
on the gift. She saw it and told me take them down immediately as
her friend is sensitive and does not want to see her name online
for no reason. I hesitated a bit but remove them very soon. However
she was pissed about it.
The next day, Friday, she don't want to talk to me. I just pass
the gift to her so that she can give to her friend over the
weekend. Back on Monday, she still don't talk to me. When I tried
to apologized to her about last week's incident, she ignored me. I
begin to get angry as the day passed. The next day, she still don't
talk to me, and I got even more pissed. I feel it is just a small
matter, since I took the pictures off the net upon her request. If
it is my friend, they won't make a big fuss or even care what I
post online. I feel she is making a mountain out of the
molehill.
However, in the afternoon, she went round distributing food to
the whole department. When she tried to offer me, I ignored her
because I was very angry. When she tried to offer again, this time
with sarcastic remarks saying I'm rude to ignore her, I got so
angry that I stood up, ignored her and walk off because i do not
want to lose my temper on her. She got very angry after that and
complained to her friend she wanted to change her seat (we sat
beside each other back to back).
However the next day, I regretted and thus apologized to her for
the incident. She ignored me again. Since then, she did not talk to
me anymore, even SMS. I tried to apologize a few times for the past
week, buy a nice chocolate to apologize till the last long SMS to
say sorry and why I was angry because of these incidents for the
past 2 months, but she still ignores me. It has been more than a
month since she talked to me and cared for me. If this continues, I
think the friendship will end.
Thus I feel that she just want to end this friendship, I don't
know. What do you think? What is the reason she suddenly stopped
talking to me last Dec? Why did she get so angry with me for such a
small matter about her friend's sensitivity of her name online
while she ignored that how proud am I to finish my work? Am I not
her friend as well? Why she didn't spare a thought on my feelings
too? Why she didn't realised I am so hurt by her after these 2
incidents?
Right now, I just feel like giving all the things she gave me in
the past back to her and once and for all, forever end this
friendship. But I just can't bring myself to do it, but yet she
continues to ignore me and treat me as inexistent.
So everyone, what should I do?
1. Should I throw all her gifts back to her and end this
friendship forever?
2. Or should I retain and try to salvage this friendship and how
to salvage it?
