Should I tell woman that her spouse is cheating on her?

last SG · 2012-10-28T17:09:43+00:00

Yeah I would like to tell her. But I was hoping I could do it in a way that neither of them would know that it was me. Any suggestions?

Anonymouswoman1970 SG

My friend has been married for almost 10 years. During the whole marriage he has been cheating on her both in and out of Singapore. This time he's with another girl that I know and they have been together for more than a year. They always talk about the future (having babies, etc) in front of me, and he even said he would leave his wife for her in about one year! I feel very bad for his wife. But I read a lot of forums regarding this topic and they said the messenger is the one who will get into trouble but I really cannot put up with this!! Any suggestions on what to do? Help please!!

Dalforce 1941 SG

Tell your friend anonymously through letter or email that her husband is a cheat.

mr music SG

Do you have any evidence?

Anonymouswoman1970 SG

Unfortunately I do not have any evidence. I have considered writing a letter anonymously but what if she doesn't believe it?

maxsee SG

U should not be interfering in this...this is his business.....if u interfere there will definitely be bad blood in the future between 2 of u....end of the day, it is the woman who is dumb since she believes in him.

mr music SG

are you trying to sabotage or blackmail your friend?

Anonymouswoman1970 SG

No, I am not trying to sabotage or blackmail him. I simply feel bad for the woman because he has been doing this to her for the whole time they were married. If I were in her shoes I would like to know the truth too.

ivan1973 SG

Singapore.

mr music SG

Ignorance is bliss. let the nature take its course

Devoted gal8888 SG

u shld tell the wife lar...

u go put their pic in stomp lar..haha or send the wife c the pic...like tat the wife will wake up..got evidence..

if i am the wife i want to know..

dun keep her in the dark..

this makes her the most pitiful person...so ke lian..to think the husband rely love her...really most hurtful..

your friend also no good lar go n step in people family...will get retribution one..in another way u helping her lar..ask her go do more good tings to su zui...

haiz....TMD cho nan ren..men really cannot be trusted..haiz..

[imdestinyz] SG

i think it depends on what kind of character the wife is... but oh well... such a man... shld not be spared.

Anonymouswoman1970 SG

I'm a friend of both the man and the mistress so I'm not doing this on purpose to spoil anybody's relationship. It really is ridiculous though. He sees his mistress everyday without fail and buys her extravagant gifts. Although he claims that he doesn't love his wife anymore, I feel that something should be done instead of him leading her on blindly like this, right?

Dalforce 1941 SG

Unfortunately I do not have any evidence. I have considered writing a letter anonymously but what if she doesn't believe it?

Tell her to watch for signs of adultery from her husband. Maybe she also already have doubts, you never know.

Don't know whether it is appropriate to use in this case or not but:

People of the world, be courageous, dare to fight,

defy difficulties and advance wave upon wave.

Then the whole world will belong to the people.

Monsters of all kinds shall be destroyed.

http://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/mao/selected-works/volume-9/mswv9_30.htm

Medicated Oil SG

Depend on whether you want to be responsible on the eventual outcome.

Prepare to lose both of them as your friends.

They may want to maintain the present status quo.

Or they have to work it out within themselves.

So, you have to think twice before you tell the truth.

FireIce SG

u sure the wife doesn't know?

or maybe the wife oso having a good time with a young guy...........

Dalforce 1941 SG

maybe you send her the letter about her husband cheating and she reply to you that she knew about it a long time ago. Just wanted to close one eye, open one eye only.

Just boldly, forcefully, bravely and resolutely go and tell her the truth.

If the marriage is rotten, it will end sooner or later, doesn't matter whether you tell her or not.

jojobeach SG

Got children involve or not ? If got children involve then you have to be very careful. Things can be more complicated than you think.

Why that man need to wait one year ? He can divorce the wife anytime wat. That man stringing along not only his wife.. he also playing his mistress lah.

Since that man and his mistress are your friend.. why you never ask them why they do such unscrupulous things ?

Next time take pictures and voice recording with your smartphone lor... then send to the wife annonymously lah... with our current technology... there is no such thing as secrets anymore lah.

Besides... after 10 years of marriage.. the wife probably already know something is not right with her marriage lah.... your evidence may not even be a shock to her... just something to confirm her suspicions... so yes.. go ahead and send the evidences.

newgal SG

You must tell her watever you know because this is a serious matter.

Nadare SG

just tell! ur doing a good deed by doing that

lce SG

buzy busy