Firstly, most guys are horny as you said, they tend to think not
with their brains sometimes infront of girls/ladies. The reason i
believe why you are feeling bad/indignant about the way he sees or
treated you, is because you both are into this with a different
mentality or a different intended outcome. For him, he probably
wanted another adventure but for you, you probably are looking if
this could progress into a more in depth r/s. When there is a huge
disparity in what both parties are looking for, things happen. It
so happened that you have brains over emotion for if otherwise,
that guy would have gotten his way.
I believe ladies are sensitive creatures, i believe you knew
long ago what his intentions are but basically, as per all girls
i've came acrossed, they choose to take it at a lighter note and
find "reasons" for it which in your situation "all guys are horny".
Most ladies will choose to think only of the good side without
really trying to see the real intent. Thats how things happen i
believe.
Anyway, such guys are everywhere, so the thing is how u
handle/reject/not get taken in by them. Otherwise it is up to you
whether you want to play their game and take whatever with a pinch
of salt. If not, reject their advances and hold your line until you
probably find someone who can satisfy you emotionally.
Well, actually there's alot of logic behind why you somehow
still feel that he is a good friend. But im so called not supposed
to reveal it too much. You could pm me if you would like to
know.
Anyway since you've moved on. good luck take care all da
best!
Hi,
Thank you all for the inputs.
Actually I was not hoping for an explanation specifically to my
situation but still appreciate your responses to that. I was cool
enough to let it go on good terms, so citing my personal experience
may have made the thread misleading. Let's put the story of the guy
and me aside then :).
So there I go again talking about jerks (not guys who act like
jerks but actually ain't) and innocent girls.
Guys are horny creatures, yes pretty well so. But let's
distinguish between one with self-control and one having no
control/responsibility for their behavior; one who goes for
promiscuous girls who are sexually available to get laid and one
who targets at whoever girls out there, esp. innocent girls and
asks for sex in the name of love that never exists in the first
place, leads her to believe that he cares about her without
actually caring about her. Most of girls aren't silly enough to
fall for tacky pick-up lines. Many girls can easily see through
jerks but some, unfortunately, really can't hence become the jerks'
victims both emotionally and physically. So let's not suggest this
type of naive girl to stay chill and turn the guy down if she is
not into the game. She simply doesn't see what is actually
happening with her eyes closed.
Don't get me wrong. I tend to look at pple from both sides, good
and bad, even often overlook their flaws. But let's say, a guy
might have a lot of appealing traits, great intellect, decent sense
of humour, a successful businessman, an amazing conversationalist,
you name it, but if he has no ability to display restraint/has no
respect towards women, a man of no manner who seeks pleasure out of
a woman's innocence and misery, his devil side obviously overwhelms
the good side of him. Well, then he can still be a friend
considering his possible good side, but hardly a boyfriend, at
least in my book. I say hardly, because there is always
exceptions.
I actually have quite a number of friends/acquaintances who
can't seem to handle a sexless relationship. They have flings
behind their gf/bf's back (girls do that too, let's face it) so I'm
not unfamiliar with seeing this sort of thing. But despite having
reckoned it for quite a few years, I still just don't have yet an
anser that can explain thoroughly as to why some pple live such an
irresponsible/unhealthy life, if not so lack of morals.
Well then, if a guy holds on to his fantasy that being a player
is attractive, and he would emotionally and/or physically abuse
some/countless number of girls to feel high, to get laid, at the
end of the day, he is just a plain loser. When a guy has
self-respect and respects his girl, wins her heart by his maturity,
wisdom, love and care, has power to build a loving and healthy
relationship with her, it's when he wins big, imo :)
