This guy is my
good friend.
What does it mean if a man aged 34, was poring into the Facebook
profile of his ex daily for over a month? He's stopped since. He'd
force himself to stop after obsessing for a month. Then he will be
back at it again after 6-7 months of abstainance. What is going
on?
She has been married for 4 years now. He's known her since
he was in college in 2002, and has loved her since so it's been 11
year now. He says circumstances were between them which did not
allow them to be together but from what I understand she developed
feelings for him as well.
In 2008, when she told him she was getting married, he says he
abruptly disappeared from her life in a dramatic fashion, like a
complete disappearance without saying bye. I think he was really
crushed. It seems like she did marry the following year and still
is married.
I thought that with his disappearing from her life and not
speaking to her, he had moved on, he still wondered about her and
tried to look her up online in 2010. He confirmed that she had
married but from what I knew he couldn't really tear himself away
and was in a limbo, exchanging weekly pleasantries with her until
mid 2011. I thought he had finally moved on when it stopped, but I
found out that he masked his cell number and called her at the
start of 2012 to hear her say Hello, and hung up.
I believed that he finally moved on early this year (2012), but
I discovered that he had looked at her profile daily all through
October and stopped himself only after Halloween. He discovered
that she had moved cities with her husband.
But he's stopped.
Is my friend
still into that woman, or is he over her and is just curious and
wonders about her now and then (which many ex-es do), this I can
accept?
This is call unrequited love lah. Very creepy leh.
For his sake, tell that woman to unfriend him on facebook
lah.
