How to maintain relationship and conversation with friends?

Seaweedboi SG

Personally I feel it's very difficult for me to maintain relationships with friends, yes, I do make friends but eventually like you graduated from secondary school or so . You seldom meet up with them , unless there's special occasions like someone's birthday party or some BBQ gathering. And I realized there's some awkwardness when I spoke to some of my work colleagues or school mates , some of your friends you could speak to them naturally without hesitant like you spoke to your parents or siblings . But some of them no matter how hard I tried, I will just fade out during my conversation with them. Any good advice anyone?

doraemon1234 SG

ya i also find it hard.. share your problem

oldbreadstinks SG

just listen and nod your head at the correct time. but at least pay enough attention to respond.

not all good conversations have both side shooting saliva

speakoutfor SG

Mr Seaweed,

Friends come and go. No matter how hard you try to maintain good relations, they will drift away. After school, you no longer in touch, they have their own work place, you have your own, so the common ground GAP between you and your former friends are getting bigger. Its pointless.

So don't get depress over this, because its natural progression.

If you serious about finding friends, get involve in religious activities, where you can find friends who are your peers. But nowadays, its hard to make friends even if you join hobby groupds via facebook or other means.

Also this is a sign, for you to settle down, find yourself a soul mate. When you have a soul mate, you will feel pre-occupied and also have somebody to share your life with. You won't be bothered about your drifiting friends.

Rlau1992 SG

Honestly, I have the same issue as you.

Friends are actually just passing clouds..

As you grow and start working, you get to meet lots of new friends/peers/partner.

Sometimes you can get a topic by looking around you as you talk and speak window shopping.

Google some of the places of interest, topics and stuff..

A better way to meet new people is to attend church, social activities, etc etc.

mcsy86 SG

Life could be boring if we keep hanging out with the same group of friends all the time. Do you get bored eating the same food everyday? Friends are just like food, there are some who are true friends (favourite food) whom you have to keep but you don’t see them everyday. Those normal friends, its good to hang out with once in a while – balancing of life Smile

Haonanren12345 SG

Let natural take it's course.

In Buddhism ,there is a saying " nothing is permanent".

In Taoism, there is a saying "move with the flow".

Do not try to hold onto anything and hope for permanence..

As time goes... everything changes.. old friends go and new friends come when Your life changes.