I am being harassing by a china woman and accusing me having an
affair with his husband by a very simple joking manner in sms
related to work “yes mum” then i replied “good son”. i had reported
to police twice but seems like no help at all. That woman still
harassing me by callings/smses/emails anytime she likes. Pls help
and advise me….i am afraid that china woman came out of no way to
harass me in the middle of no way to insult me in public or….cos i
do not know what she will do…..
This incident happened sometime in early Jan12. i received a
call from a china woman, asking to meet up with me etc….the
following incident as follow :
I had received numeral miss calls between 6am – 7.30am. When I
woke up at 7am for morning toilette to get ready to work. My phone
rang again and I picked up the call, a china woman accent looking
for me(calling my name), the tele-conversation as follows :
Then I just hang up the call as I thought this china woman
either got something wrong or got the wrong person with the same
name as me or else it scams. But she calls back and I did not want
to answer the calls. Then I received her sms said “ I don’t want u
loss face that’s why call u, but if u don’t mind. We will meet in
ur office.”
After reading her sms, I felt more puzzle as no friends of mind
knowing where my office and I did not have any china friends
either. By saying that, I assured that lady definitely got the
wrong person. After that, I totally forgot about this incident.
Around 11am, my colleague (his husband) called office and
apologized to me this morning calls then I realized his wife was
from China and I asked him what happened and why she kept callings
me so many times early in the morning. I told him that your matter
better settled by yourself. I have nothing to do with you matter
and don’t came to me.
When my colleague(his husband) came to office, I asked again why
she kept callings me then he told me his wife suspect we are having
an affair because she discover a sms in his mobile which was work
related issue, he replied to me in a joking manner “Yes mum” and I
replied “good son”.
He asking helped from my another colleague trying to explain to
her in mandarin.After short period of time,thing did not get well,
that china woman using her husband mobile phone as well as her
mobile phone or block/unknown calls to disturb me.in the middle of
the night or early in the morning…. Despite, I replied and warned
her in sms said “I don’t‘ know what’s going on n nothing to do btw
ur matter. Stop harassing me again, if u do n I will report to
police.” Unfortunately, she did not believe and replied me in
Chinese “请自爱”.
I alrdy informed all the incident to my colleagues in the
begininng as well as shown to them all the miss
calls/smses/emails…...until now she still keeps harassing me with
no reasons, checking his husband credit cards/mobilephone/emails
etc….. whatever things, she will trying link all the things to
me…....
Pls help and advice, what shld i do?. its alrdy happened in
Jan12 until now…i never go out and contact my colleague at all, why
she can hounded me like that..and i alrdy report to police twice
but no help at all….
Thanks!
Nobody
Lets see, is his phone issued by your company
? And your phone is also company issued
?
Basically , you are caught flirting with this married man.
You may not be the only one his wife is going after. There are
possibly other women he flirts with outside work.
You cannot hide behind "work related issues". Always keep
communications business like and strict about office ethics and
behaviors.
In my work, we had to deal with a lot of sexual
harrassment problems before, so now every employee goes for
compulsory yearly "reminder" training about work place sexual
harrassments and how to avoid it.
Keep private communications private, do not mix with work place
comms..there are too many cases of office affairs attributed to
"work related" interactions. Its just a lame excuse.
We are all mature adult workers, able to control our behaviors and
desires.
You may think your "good son" tex reply seemed innocent to
you.
it may not be the case for him or his wife, if he
never have a good trust record in his marriage.
Your colleague may be having marital problems at home, and now
due to your text being so personal, she has more reason to believe
he is being unfaithful.
I suggest u keep records of the texts and emails and note down
time of calls and caller ID. So that in any case u can Use as
defense .
Your colleague need to go for marital counseling. If he can't
work it through, u will need to escalate to your management. if he
need to , he should leave the company and start
elsewhere.
As the saying goes, don't shit where u eat.
