I have been with my bf for about a year now.
The prob wif me is I'm not confident of being alone. I have
carried a torch for Another guy for a long time. But I know he
can't be with me cos of other personal reasons. Mostlu would be his
race. I'm not concerned of looks cos I know eventually it will
fade. But I cannot be in this way where I'm neither here or there.
Wat should I do ?
Im getting married wif my current bf next year
You do not seem like you are ready for marriage. It seems more
as though you are afraid of being alone and somehow u probably felt
that getting married to this current bf solves the problem of being
lonely.
I believe you should first be clear whether marriage is by love
and what you wanted. Stay focused on the person you are going to
marry and try to see if thats really what you wanted.
" I have carried a torch for Another guy for a long time. But I
know he can't be with me cos of other personal reasons" If you have
already carried a torch for another guy a long time, why did
you still agree to marry your bf? what is going on in your mind
when u agreed? I would suggest you be clear about what you want
rather than to still head on to marriage with an unclear mind. Dont
do your bf and yourself an injustice.
Assuming that guy is able to be with you, will u be jumping ship
to him? and when you are with him, if you feel the same wa again,
will you search for someone and jump ship again? Problem is your
confidence of being alone.
