My bf is 26 and I'm 23 this year. I'm still a virgin but he's
not, he had slept with 3 of his ex gfs before. We are really
different in our personalities, individual lives and the way we
were brought up. He also told me before that he was attacted to me
because I am everything he isn't. He was the bad boy when he was
younger (in the eyes of our families and our friends) but
thankfully for him, his family is quite well off, thus they sent
him to UK to do his A levels and degree. While I'm the goody girl
next door whom follows the nicely planned out route for me. I've
also met his family but he isn't ready to meet mine because he is
worried how they would judge his past. When his mum saw me, she
actually asked him if he was serious with me and told him not to
hurt him in any way.
We have been dating for 1 month, we are doing all fine and good. He
asked to make love nearly all the times we were on bed and we did
everything except sex already. I told him that I'm still not ready
and he's willingly to wait and didn't force me any further. But I
could tell that he really wants to make love together.
Anyway, he drove me to somewhere really romantic last night and we
started kissing, the mood was really right. After that, he wanted
to send me home but I wanted to sleep over at his place (I've been
staying over his place quite regularly already and he's staying
alone) He then told me that if we go to his place like that, we
would end up doing it. I didn't say anything and I just wanna spend
the whole night with him. I could really feel that this time the
mood was a little different and my hands are shivering. I guess I
was prepared already to give myself totally to him, and at the last
moment before he inserted into me, he turned away, laughed and said
'Now you're ready and I'm not.' He said he loves me too much and he
knows that I see virginity as smt very impt and he wants me sure
that he's worthy of it. Why didn't he want to do it with me when
he's been asking for it? I'm confused..
It doesn't matter
whether he has slept with 3-exs or if you hold conservative value
of having virginal purity until marriage - at the end of the day,
it lies somewhere between what both of you are willing to
compromise and negotiate, in consideration of each other's value
and in view of a long term relationship.
It seem that you are physically comfortable with him, which is a
signal that you do enjoy some degree of close intimacy. As much as
you are thinking and working out your 'risk profile' analysis, he
is also working out if he should 'negotiate' his own sexual needs
to give you the respect you need because he knows that it is
important to you.
I am not suggesting that your man doesn't want sex - like how
you have sense it, he probably wanted it. The difference might be
the fact that his previous gfs might not hold that kind of value
that you do (as strongly) or he might want to 'try a different
approach' to the way he manage his relationship.
The possibilities are endless, but I would choose to see it as a
good sign - that your man made the decision and did what you have
described. Do not attribute it as a weakness personally, in which
you might have deem yourself less attractive in any ways. 'Physical
Touch' is only one mode of expression in love; after all, we have
other four languages of love (namely: Quality Time, Words of
Affirmation, Receiving Gifts and Acts of Services). A balance
relationship would also have a good mix of the other expressions in
love. 
Cheers
