Hi people, im relatively new to this forum. However im seeking
some answers and advice from my current situation here. First of
all, i would like to thank you for your time listening to me. Here
goes:
Due to frequent quarrels caused by our personality differences,
I broke up with my gf of 3 years almost a year back in 2011. Things
were going on okay for me, moving on and all.
Until afew months later, my ex (lets call her Jane) contacted me
back, wanting to meet up for dinner. I was thinking she had moved
on as well and just wana be friends. I was always open to the idea
of old flames being friends and all and a few of my good friends
are actually my ex-gfs.
I met jane up, and she was okay, still the same old girl i used
to date. we had dinner and all was pleasant, but unexpectedly we
ended up having sex at my place in the wee hour of the night. And
this was not all, she actually revealed to me that she is already
attached with another guy.. (seems like she moved on quicker than i
do.)
I was kinda shocked and all, and this doesnt look good on us. I
was kinda ashamed of myself, and told myself that i will not do it
again. But it was all a lie, i could not resist the temptations of
sexual pleasure with Jane, afterall im single and i have my
needs.
We began to meet up more often for dinner and usually these
dinner dates ended up in sexual trysts in a hotel room. Every week
without fail, we will meet up one night to engage in coitus. We
began to grow closer to each other, she told me that shes having
relationship problems with her current bf, frequent quarrellings,
not spending enough time for each other, etc.
I knew that inside her heart, she still loves me, dont even
think that she loves her bf. But i am really happy with this
current status with her, for i know if we were to be back together
again, fights will break out. So getting back together with her is
out of the question.
However as time goes on, i begin to feel something weird, i
actually felt jealous that she is with her bf. This jealousy began
to engulf me and i wanted her to break up with her bf. But on the
other hand, i just wanted to maintain this sexual, non commitment
relationship with her.
I am very sorry but i admit, i am a really selfish person, i
wanted her for myself but yet i doesnt want to commit. I felt that
since shes cheating on her bf and their relationships are very
rocky, they should just end it. You might brand me a hypocrite for
saying this, but afterall, this behind the back sex thing doesnt
look good on us and i actually felt guilty, and feel bad for the
guy. Although she doesnt. Does this shows that she dont really have
feelings for the guy?
I asked her to break up with the guy and dont waste each other’s
time since she doesnt really like him. But actually i wanted her
for my own (im an asshole really.) I told her that if she break up
with her bf, we would have nothing to hide and theres nothing to be
guilty and worried for. She felt that its okay being with the guy,
since there are no other guys coming by. And she doesnt have a
problem cheating on him and theres no difference in the status of
our sex-only relationship . She seemed unwilling to break up with
the guy.
Things were actually simple and uncomplicated for me – bang her
and be satisfied and not giving a fuck about her personal life. But
i guess i kinda screwed it up by guilt and jealousy.What should i
do? Really need some advice here, FYI, jane is a very
emotionally dependent girl, not very much willing to give up/let go
of a relationship and needs someone by her side. But i feel that
this should not go on. This is wrong. I feel bad for the guy and
most importantly i want her to be mine. Please help me.
Very much appreciated and grateful,
Enzo
Easy, tell her to break up with her current bf, make her yours.
Then let her go cheat on you with her ex bf.
