friend likes to insist she is right

AngelOfDarkness SG

You know what your friend is like, don't you.

You want her to be like you, discuss opinions, except differing views objectively? You know its never gonna happen. So why do you keep on getting into the same situation with her?

People want to be important. You included. You want to make your statement. She too. But she has a greater emotional need for it than you.

Therefore before you say anything to her, think first. How will she react? You should know her well enough to know that. Say things that would not be contentious to her. Sometimes don't say anything to her. Btw, this ability will come helpful in the corporate world.

She is you dear friend, where you can, give her a good word about herself. She needs praise. Lots of it.

Ok, mancha. Will take note and be more careful...Sometimes she just auto create a topic ma. Like when my train broke down and I was stuck in it, I just messaged her, "oh man my train broke down, and I'm sibei tired why today?!" and den she just created a whole topic to argue with me about.

but yea lor, silly me why even bother telling her. .shall just keep my mouth shut....

alize SG

It's fine if your friend wants her own opinion, separate from yours. But ahe has a very strange world view: she wants to control your mind as well, like it matters to her if you have a different opinion.

1. She doesn't understand it causes you hurt feelings.

2. She doesn't understand it will cost her friends if she keeps acting so disrespectful.

3. If she only treats you this way, it says something about how she sees you.

AngelOfDarkness SG

LOL, its ok, perhaps you will get used to the idea of not getting involved, there is no right or wrong way, just choose the method that your heart feel right.

Try Ambien, it is a good sleeping pill with little side effects. However like all drugs, should be taken for short term to avoid addiction.

Thanks :) yea slowly learning le :D

it's okay, doc did give me meds for my damned tension headache/migraine and sleeping pills as well. Back to work tml. ARGH.

angel7030 SG

It just a fren, nothing to worry about, there are all kinds of fren in this world, but it is just a fren, and fren come and go, sometime, you distaste this fren and that fren character and attitude, but that is the way they are, and when they are gone, you kinda miss them, miss their character and action.

Take frens as it come and go, there are all kind of them, all are different, all have different opinon just like all have different arse, just respect one another will do good

AngelOfDarkness SG

Take frens as it come and go, there are all kind of them, all are different, all have different opinon just like all have different arse, just respect one another will do good

Thanks angel :)

Tmarcus SG

My step-mom also is this kind of people. She will say, "No! I remember its this blablabla"

What I do is, use the smart side of your brain and prove her wrong until she thinks that she is being stupid because she is going the opposite of the actual facts..

angel7030 SG

aiya, right or wrong also no $$, if people want to be right, let them be right lor

AngelOfDarkness SG

aiya, right or wrong also no $$, if people want to be right, let them be right lor

Ya lor. I do that also...but everytime tio her verbal diarrhoea sia.

angel7030 SG

Then you go hindu temple or some fashion shop to put a dot on yur forehead lor, so everytime she talk non stop, point to your head and tell her, hello, can full stop or not??

AngelOfDarkness SG

Then you go hindu temple or some fashion shop to put a dot on yur forehead lor, so everytime she talk non stop, point to your head and tell her, hello, can full stop or not??

Jacychong10 SG

Well...since you girls decided to be friends in the first place, then there must be something positive about her and you that the both of you have remained as friends till now.

Like what the others have said, there are all sorts of people, so its either you accept it or tell her about it subtly. :) Yeah, try not to dwell on a topic for too long? If not it becomes a heated argument and not v good for both sides. :)

AngelOfDarkness SG

Thanks Jacy!

Yes she has many positive sides to her. One shortcoming is her insistence to prove herself right in everything, even topics that shouldn't warrant so much debate between two good friends.

I do try to remove the topic from our conversation, but she will insist on me providing an answer. But from now on, I'll just be straightforward and, at a certain point in the 'discussion', to tell her, "I don't want to talk anymore about this."

Jacychong10 SG

Yeah, that's awesome! She should know that if you don't want to debate on, then she should stop..because you still treasure this friendship :)

angel7030 SG

Thanks Jacy!

Yes she has many positive sides to her. One shortcoming is her insistence to prove herself right in everything, even topics that shouldn't warrant so much debate between two good friends.

That's right, point to the dot, even website also got a dot com, why can't she just hv a dot in here talking.

My mentor once told me, people who try to prove/ or keep insisting that they are right are actually guilty concious people, they must had did something wrong, because they tend to overly wanting to prove their rights, end up with lots of slip words given away, which they themselves also did not notice it. Most of these people are great liar, however, if they can use their disadvantages into good use, they can be good cooker's/kitchen wares' sale peoples

troublemaker2005 SG

they need the job, cannot lose must push everything away.

angel7030 SG

but end up a big loser

troublemaker2005 SG

you like to use the word 'big', is 'big; all that matetrs to you?

LFNY SG

Dont give chance to your friend. example, Your freind: talk talk talk. You: "Wait!! then you continue from where your friend stop,. Your Friend agin: " hello, it's my topic, why are you talking...You interupt again: "oh is it?? I din realise that, sorry hor...but you continue from where you left off giving no chance to your friend to speak..each time she tries to interrupt, you say "sorry, I wasnt listening. Then you continue again unitl she says she need to go home liao... Whew.... was that difficult?

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