I feel very lonely in school :(

King-X SG

Been in sec school for 3 years, now 3 years,but i talk to people for a while they dun really seem interested and i dun have alot friends to talk to :( any help plz?

MagnificientDiagrams SG

Find friends with common interest. When people are talking during class breaks, just blend into the group and listen. Then maybe you can strike conversation on a familiar tone. Some friends like to collect comics, some like to talk about internet games, some like to talk about transformers. What is your area of interest?

Be a bit thick skin. If you try talking to 10 people, maybe out of that, 3 or 4 people are open to talk to you. Not everybody is open to talking.

Summer hill SG

What?

Why?

Are you offensive in any way?

Are you someone who doesn't enjoying opening up and going for gathering events?

Are you stingy?

angel7030 SG

Been in sec school for 3 years, now 3 years,but i talk to people for a while they dun really seem interested and i dun have alot friends to talk to :( any help plz?

What? you do what job in school? gardener or guards

Why? you stay at sec 1 for 3 years, why?

Offensive, why u care about people interest in you or not?

To be different, go school with open zip, or expose some parts to girls or guys, that is how some movie star get noted and become popular, exposure is very important.

If you are stingy, stop eating sting ray and never go near a bee or anything that sting

troublemaker2005 SG

angel, time to take your medicine. take 2 tablets after food, so make sure if you already had dinner hours ago, take some light snacks before medication.

Summer hill SG

angel, time to take your medicine. take 2 tablets after food, so make sure if you already had dinner hours ago, take some light snacks before medication.

imh?

Clarac SG

Get used to it.

I am not being mean, simply frank. People in my secondary school happen to be the most vile, artificial, conniving bunch I have ever met. It took me the first 2 years to realise 99.99% of people are like that. Believe me, I have seen it for myself.

I came out trimphant after 4 years of being left out of groups & having only a small pitiful "friends". They were more accurately describes as "people that had common interests in mind". Since 4 of us, including me, had no clique, we form an artificial one to make others believe we were close friends. Rather, it was circumstances that coerced us to become apart of the quartet.

I scored a wonderful L1R5 of 7 raw score. I was so happy on 9 Jan 2012 when I collected my results. I didn't cry as I felt that it was only fair as I had busted my chops in 2011 on all subjects. I immediately exited my school in style (in my dad's car) and don't intend to go there ever again.

Just keep your eyes on the prize till the end of the 4 years: Your O level results.

Dont feel sad, you aren't alone in this cold world.

angel7030 SG

angel, time to take your medicine. take 2 tablets after food, so make sure if you already had dinner hours ago, take some light snacks before medication.

Currently taking my uncle hitman medication, cos he nids me to take it before he take his medication...so now, abit tipsy

angel7030 SG

Academy can get your far, but not far enough to be a real human.

MagnificientDiagrams SG

Cold the world may be. But it is up to you to view the world and see it in positive light. One has to always be optimistic. MacGregor theory X and Y, looks at the view at both sides of the coin. You can view a person as lazy or is it that the person lacks motivation?

Not everybody is artificial. Perhaps one can reach out to somebody. Remember the world is what we make it to be. If we think it is cold, it is cold. If we see it as a challenge to take up opportuntiies - then it is a world of opportunities.

MikeOscar SG

Been in sec school for 3 years, now 3 years,but i talk to people for a while they dun really seem interested and i dun have alot friends to talk to :( any help plz?

Experience...

Secondary school is very much depends on what type of crowd is there and if you are suitable with that crowd...

Unfortunately, my first sec 1 to sec 3 is very lonely coz all the malays are mats and minahs wannabes and all the chinese are Ah beng and Ah Lian wanabes.

I spend most of my time in school library where I met with my 2 closest friends till this day. The only 2 other malays in the school who are interested in Mangas, Animes, gaming and tech. And also have a decent score that we can have L1R5 of 16.

Here's my advice... Eventhough your classmates mostly not interested in you is because you are not very interesting to them. But's that ok... most people your age interest are very artificial and will change over time... What you need do is to focus on yourself and do what is important/interesting to you and your future... Try and learn your interested musical instrument, learn your desired sport, go take up interesting courses like drawing, finance management (if you're interested lol), go volunteer with your local MP, etc

Do what you love to do and the right people will follow...

But you must be at the right place to do it. I unfortunately do what I love in a classroom full of mats making fun of the only malay in class who is interested in J-pop back then... I should have joined a volunteer group to extend my social group back then.... You join more things, meet more people, higher chance of finding the right friends.... As Eric Cartman once said, To find the right friend, you have to sift through a lot of dicks...

Your school is not the world... there is a bigger world out there... If you realize this now, you confirm will be a step forward compared to your classmates...

Bhw33 SG

When growing up, I also 'dun have alot friends to talk to'. But now in my 40s, I turned out quite alright, more or less.

In JC, on the 1st day, I spoke to those sitting around me...which school they're from and what subjects they are taking up. The one on my left was unfriendly. The one on my right was friendly. So as we left the classroom, I continued talking to the one who sat on my right. As we reached the canteen, I said 'lets order drinks'. Till today we still good friends.

angel7030 SG

Lonely good mah, can concentrate on study, in my school days, I want a piece of mind also cannot, here disturb me , there call me up for dancing, then weekend all at scape park, hang around and buy bubble teas follow by movies, you damn lucky liao.

And in studying, you dun feel lonely, because you are alway busy with it, to find the answer, the truth, the meaning, the knowledge needed, and more importantly, the constant asking of teacher and mates about these question, that definition, why like this, how come like that, how to prove it....asking question is the best way to learn and get less lonely.

Jacychong10 SG

Just try to participate in more activities and know more people.I think secondary school period is the best time to make the best friends of your life. Don't lose this opportunity! Hope you'll find awesome close friends soon:)

Summer hill SG

one thing for ts...

angel7030 SG

stop giving him song, later he fail again

WhyYouStaring SG

troublemaker2005 SG

stop giving him song, later he fail again

time to sleep. got drink some hot milk, piss and got shut your eyes

Clarac SG

I have had nearly the same experience as you had, but the only difference was that it affected my grades.

You would think that my grades were good all along. I'll have you know that for the last 4 years from 2008 to 2011, I never had an A1 in my grades in school, not even once. My grades were always in the Bs at best. I think I had only a few A2s in my 4 year hellish journey. It was a sad time and never in my wildest dreams did I think I would do as well. I did everything within my power to ensure I did well. Everything. It was sad and painful. I think I deserve some kind of award for my hard work and tolerance. All I got was the Good Progress Award of $200.

Clarac SG

You can try to look on the positive side of issues, but sometimes you have to be realistic and speak the facts alone. Why deceive yourself? It doesn't help you solve anything at all. As I knew that I was in such a lousy position in school, it motivated me to take out the big guns and ensure my success at the end of my 4 year stint. Not everyone is artificial but are you really that free to spot this kind of good people? Honestly? I don't think so. Good people are few and far between. Everyone only cares about themselves. Noble people like Mother Theresa rarely come every generation. I don't think you have much of an argument against this open fact.