What does she want?

[imdestinyz] SG

You made the deal and she accepted. After all, friends with benefits have pretty clear T&C; just that in your case, she didn't uphold her side of the bargain, which made things a little more complicated.

How your sub rosa relationship first begin has a significant influence over the development of later episodes. Since the clandestine relationship was a secret back then, your probable position in her heart is likely to be someone she could secretly fall back on whether she felt dissatisfied with her relationship. After all, sex was probably part of the equation on both separate phase in the relationship, hence that seemingly sinful arrangement is nothing special in particular. But what you might not realize is that she is probably getting some degree of emotional dependence on this poorly structured relationship, regardless of how sparingly you thought you have provided.

She does not technically need the physical sex, rather, she craves for emotional connection. This probably explains why she could withdraw sex from the deal, but still want the relationship because after all, you have always been the secret lifeline that she depends on emotionally (although on your end, you see it purely as a physical exchange).

Allow me to give you an analogy: say if you are a salesman and you sell you Cartel watches - To you: you probably feel that you are merely selling a watch because you sell this product to many people. But to the customer, they don't only just buy a watch - they just bought prestige, brand, status and everything else intangible that came with the purchase.

Not technically, but implicitly.

Well, she has abandoned the original deal and submitted another 'proposal'. If you cannot accept the new terms, then it's your decision to decide if you want to call it a day or resubmit another 'proposal'.

Cheers

as per usual... this mod gives really good advise

angel7030 SG

But sadly, these day, no one bother about good advises.

Cannot blame them, after all, the good advises nowaday dun live up to the reality of these world. Our govt also gives good advises..but look at the fools who fall for it.

_0h_gosh_ SG

Thanks to a few who replied me with good advise. Really appreciate it.

Something bad happened 1 week ago... I sms her a message and her husband saw it. It was a very short message but there were intimacy words in it. I'm not sure what happened to her and her husband now, we spoke on the phone the next day after her husband found out, she did asked me again if I want her, I told her that it is impossible. We stopped contacting each other after that, she does not wanna update me anything either. Her husband did not call me and request to talk to me, but I did received some prank calls recently... Someone who called and remain quiet, then hung up.

Anyway, I think I will just take this incident as a chance for me to stop getting in touch with her again. I sms her that I will end the secret relationship with her as it is not doing her good either, she did not say much... so I guess she is fine with my decision too. I'll see how it goes, as for my side, I will just not contacting her again...

[imdestinyz] SG

Thanks to a few who replied me with good advise. Really appreciate it.

Classic example of wad we call paper cannot wrap fire.

angel7030 SG

Thanks to a few who replied me with good advise. Really appreciate it.

You must be the office guy who go after the previous poster's wife, the world is really damn small, all of us got their roles to play, one as husband, one as wife, and one as wife's killer. Perhap, i should play the daughter role.

As man, never go after another man's wife, you just hurt your brother damn bad

As a woman, never go after another woman's husband, you just hurt your sister damn bad.

angel7030 SG

Classic example of wad we call paper cannot wrap fire.

its no more a classic, now paper can really wrap fire, wax paper

_0h_gosh_ SG

No no... I don't think I am that office guy who posted in the previous thread...

Anyway, everyone know that a guy should not screwing another man's wife, and a gal should not be sleeping with a married man... But people tend to ignore this and continue doing it for the excitment I guess... I'll tell myself not to make the same mistake again... Ha!

mancha SG

cervical cancer, unlikely, as she is still young. But a possibility.

second kid, highly probable, as she do not want the kid to look like you.

STD, unlikely.

impress you, maybe, if she want a chance with you she need to show she can be trusted by stopping the shenanigan.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Hey! I just read the news about MP Yaw and Angela

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