Well for most pple, when you got your bf / gf, you basically kissed
all your friends goodbye. So if you already have one, you can
pretty much ignore that aspect.
But to survive at work, it is another skill altogether other
than your work capabilities. I never ever let myself get
disadvantaged at work. There are a few golden rules I think you
really gotta learn especially for your predicament.
Working hard doesnt cut it. The most successful worker
is seldom the hardest worker, but the smartest one who falls
in the good books of your boss.
NEVER EVER let anybody step over you. This is something i
realized during my school days. Because if some member in your
project group can be a slacker and get free marks for your group
work, what is there to stop such cheapskates from
repeating the same crap when they get into work life?
Remember there'll always be jerks who'll backstab you, put
you in the bad light over your bosses and take credit for your hard
work.
I make it a point to let my bosses know that its me, Me, ME !!!
that did all the work for the events / projects. I will let my boss
know if somebody didnt do a shit for anything !!
Now you'll probably think that in doing so i'll be making some
enemies in the workplace. But hey .. thats not
backstabbing. Besides, i didnt come here to work to make
friends ok? I am here to earn money and advance my own career. I
will do whatever it takes to get to where I want and whatever
stands in front of me will be kicked away or dealt with. It is that
SIMPLE.
If you do not make an enemy out of someone, sooner or later
someone will make an enemy out of you.. So long your boss
recognizes you as a capable worker, you are an asset to him, you
can get away with murder.
And never ever do anything out of your jobscope. I mean NEVER.
Because if you volunteer or if you allow yourself to do something
that you were not originally meant to do, your bosses or co-workers
will "conveniently" think that you could do it again in the future.
You are merely adding extra work on your table, you still having
your own work responsibilties to fulfil is one thing, not getting
paid for the extra work is the worst kind of shit i despise the
most.
It is a dog eat dog world out there. Sometimes the only way to
survive or go on is to be more cruel and vicious than what
other pple can dish out. Being nice to someone is being cruel to
yourself.
People like to bully me. I am by nature a very quiet person, not
loud at all. I get nervous around people, and then when they start
to talk very loudly, I will cringe (duno mentally only or
physically too, but mentally confirm have). In office always got
people tell me do this and that, and my title is 'assistant'. So
sometimes hard to tell when I'm not supposed to do stuff.
How to not let people bully? If someone tells me to do
something, I might say 'busy now, cannot help'. But then that
person will 'I also very busy, help la, short while only'. I cannot
say 'no'. Help!
Xiaogougou, you must be very vocal...that's your nature,
right?
You don't have to try to be someone else.
Your conversation does not flow.. is because there is nothing in
common to chat about.
If you have more to relate to people.. the conversation will
start to flow.
Some of your friends are just superficial.. they joke and make
noise. At the end of the day..such "boisters" and "fun" are
meaningless.
Try to hangout with people with more depth. Travel around more
and experience life in quality.. not just quantity.
It's not that I try to be someone else, but I try to make myself
appear more interesting...although most of the time I don't give a
heck about what people are talking about. If not, I will be silent
all the time, even more so that I am now.
Because around me, many of the people just make meaningless
noise...and even those who are not predisposed to do this, will
start doing this too due to peer pressure. Then it is hard to
differentiate the real empty vessels and those who just do so to
try to fit in.
