Ts,
The question that needs to be anwered by u is this – u in love with
her or u in love with love, or u love with the projections (ideas)
in YOU of love on her?
When one tries to add to what one is thru another (this is not
love, but scarcity within onself, tht one is incomplete) or even
find oneself (one’ sense of self) thru another – it is not love,
but a need for self-validation thru antoher , or even
emotional/psycho needs (expectations not excluded) thru another –
know jolly well that is heading for turmoil.
Imagine the other in the same predicament – it will be of
exploitation, it will be of using eachother and worse of all
quickly trying to make it into a relationship. Hence, the misery of
being owned.
When one cannnot relate to what one is, it is nigh impossible to
relate to another. In other words, when the means to and end is the
motive( which many do not know of nor understand) it is most likely
going to be a mutual benefit shceme. Of course, it works but only
for a while.
A human being is an evolving subjective phenomenon – once
objectified – the other n oneself is a mere commodity – to be used
and put aside and vice versa.
Love abides when there is absence of fears/reasons to love. When
the latter is present – it is not love (but needs/expectations) and
the sooner one understands,reconciles to that predicament – the
wiser one comes away and the possibility of evolving and yet loving
another is freeing and yet a beautiful expereince.
Only being self-honest and having a porous ego may avail
answers!
