Should I go for it or not? :(

last SG · 2011-12-22T14:54:35+00:00

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FreakGeek SG

My closest guy friend recently confessed that he likes me. He's a really nice guy, almost an ideal bf for me and although I kinda like him back, I'm at a lost of what to do..

I dont think I'll be a good gf (due to my prev rs) thus I feel unworthy of his love for me..I can get very paranoid and I'm a very insecure person. I admit I'm quite spoilt at times and I'm especially temperamental when its the time of the month. I'm neither pretty nor I'm those girls who put on make-up or dress fashionably well and I fear that I'll be more of an embarrassment for him in front of his family and friends. To put it simply, I'm not somebody whom a typical guy will fall for but he is the type of guy that maybe any girl will fall for..

I honestly fear that if we get together, he'll one day realize that I'm just somebody so ordinary/horrible and I'll end up losing him like how I lost my ex whereby we dont even talk to each other anymore, not even as friends. I treasure our friendship so much so I dont know if I should take the risk in bringing this friendship to a whole new level.

Is it even right for me to think this much? Or are my worries totally uncalled for? What will you do in my situation? Just seeking opinions out there, thanks :(

gunner77 SG

If you keep thinking in such a negative aspect, then i suggest u don't get into a relationship.

why?

because u are going to the those negative aspects with u and it will keep playing in ur mind.

FireIce SG

if u never try, u never know........

charlize SG

How old are you?

charlize SG

if u never try, u never know........

Try and you could be scarred for life.

Don't believe those "better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" crap.

Life will kick you in the gonads if it sees you writhing in pain on the ground and foaming at the mouth.

gunner77 SG

How old are you?

Please don't change the topic.

mancha SG

The problem is not him, it is you and how you feel about yourself. (Your second paragraph.)

You don't have to make any commitment now.

You can take this opportunity to better yourself. This is the first thing you need to do, and he can help you.

lce SG

honesty is the best policy

if he can accept u the wish u luck . if dun then so be it

charlize SG

Please don't change the topic.

There is a reason why i ask for the age.

If still young, then i would advise her to focus on studying or making money and there solves her problem for now.

gunner77 SG

There is a reason why i ask for the age.

If still young, then i would advise her to focus on studying or making money and there solves her problem for now.

If she is 40?

charlize SG

If she is 40?

Then i would say, you are already 40.

So what if you screw up your life?

allkosong SG

Just a couple of comments:

1. If you know you are spoilt and temperamental, why don't you change in the first place? It will take time and lots of effort on your part but it can be done.

2. If you stay spoilt, you are going to have a very hard time in a relationship. Relationships involve a lot of giving and patience.

charlize SG

Just a couple of comments:

1. If you know you are spoilt and temperamental, why don't you change in the first place? It will take time and lots of effort on your part but it can be done.

2. If you stay spoilt, you are going to have a very hard time in a relationship. Relationships involve a lot of giving and patience.

If everybody was nice and dandy, we would have world peace since the beginning of time.

Demon Bane SG

I think you should give it a try....

Sandy17sandy17 SG

He likes you. You like him.

But you feel insecure if u enter a rs with him.

Well, there will be some insecurity. But are u exaggerating matters too much?

They haven't happened yet.

You don't even know if those 'bad' things will happen.

I think you should let go of yor previous experience. Because,this time round, it's another guy,not your ex.

You say that u r not fashionable or good looking?

So He likes you for your character. Isn't that good? You wouldn't want someone to dislike you for shallow reasons,like your fashion sense.

Demon Bane SG

I think you may never know....thinking and pondering won't work...you have to try to truly know what will happen....

deathmaster SG

My closest guy friend recently confessed that he likes me. He's a really nice guy, almost an ideal bf for me and although I kinda like him back, I'm at a lost of what to do..

I dont think I'll be a good gf (due to my prev rs) thus I feel unworthy of his love for me..I can get very paranoid and I'm a very insecure person. I admit I'm quite spoilt at times and I'm especially temperamental when its the time of the month. I'm neither pretty nor I'm those girls who put on make-up or dress fashionably well and I fear that I'll be more of an embarrassment for him in front of his family and friends. To put it simply, I'm not somebody whom a typical guy will fall for but he is the type of guy that maybe any girl will fall for..

I honestly fear that if we get together, he'll one day realize that I'm just somebody so ordinary/horrible and I'll end up losing him like how I lost my ex whereby we dont even talk to each other anymore, not even as friends. I treasure our friendship so much so I dont know if I should take the risk in bringing this friendship to a whole new level.

Is it even right for me to think this much? Or are my worries totally uncalled for? What will you do in my situation? Just seeking opinions out there, thanks :(

Why is he only "almost" an ideal bf?

He likes you, and you like him too. Then why not go for it?

If you are aware that you are quite spoilt and temperamental at times, its good that you at least have some awareness of your flaws, and should make the effort to make yourself a better person. These flaws of your's can affect not only relationships with future partners, it can also strain your relationships with family and friends too.

Do you always dress up when going out with him? If he's used to you not dressing up for him, then whether you dress up or not doesn't matter.

There are many reason why a guy likes someone. A girl does not need to be special or extraordinary for a guy to like her. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. He must have found something in you that he likes, that he finds special. No need to feel inferior, just because you feel that you are not as pretty as other girls.

If he have the courage to tell you that he likes you, then you becoming his gf will be a source of pride, not embarassment. How you conduct yourself after committing to a relationship is another matter.

Really. Just go for it. Don't let this go by you.

Fugazzi SG

If one cannot accept what one perceives what one is not – how is it possible to accept another. Many play mind-games and hence the anathematization of love!

MagnificientDiagrams SG

Haiz, you like him or not? Is there another guy who is persuing you ? No?

If you like him, go for it !

He some more confess he likes you. He's all yours. Come on, what are you waiting for?

It is not everyday, that a guy comes to a girl and confesses he likes her. If you don't take this opportunity, it may take another 2 or 3 years before another guy comes. Or worse, no other guy come at all. You already say, you are not the hot type of girl.

Try dating, get to know him better, if you feel he is not the ONE, then call it off. Is that so difficult? Get over your insecurity, life is short. You blink your eyes, you be 40 the next time and be harder to find another guy.