how to befriend a guy i have been secretly admiring?

last SG · 2011-09-26T17:43:49+00:00

come on lah angel7030, like me and my thing just say lah. no need to post hints 1. if you in agony just leh me know. i will just say 'i luv u' i hoot you th...

Little Red Book SG

HI there,

after 2.5 years of hesitating, i have decided to step up and know befriend this guy that i have been admiring for the longest time on fb. What is a good way to know him without sounding needy or corny?

I am thinking:

I understand you are a trainer/motivator.

Can i learn from you and be your mentee?

Do you charge? haha..

I know it's not the best.

Please advice guys!

Aneslayer SG

Gay or straight????

FireIce SG

who?

Little Red Book SG

You mean the guy? I think he has to be straight. lol

Darkness_hacker99 SG

1) He got a girlfriend?

Planet Hitman SG

HI there,

I am thinking:

I understand you are a trainer/motivator.

Can i learn from you and be your mentee?

Do you charge? haha..

I know it's not the best.

Please advice guys!

guys go for porn on intyernet.no need real girls anymore.dunno if you rapped him will be of any use,,,

troublemaker2005 SG

you know and get to see this guy for 2.5 years. that means you can have teh cahcne to see hi probably everyday, or periodically. 2.5 years is not a short time. if you want to your should be on the way now. check out if he also got other admirers, girsl fight can be tougher than guys 1, also we willlike some visual check on the guy and your ouutlook apperance. and also test if the guy may be interested in you, or only wan to be mutual friends, or if he is also a bit chicko like ,e thanks and have a nice day, happy hunting.

likeyou SG

Ask him out for a simple lunch and coffee for a start.

Not too long for lunch and coffee engagement say from 1pm to 3pm.

After that, dont hungry for more from him.

Instead, just say thank you and maybe we go lunch again ya.

See his reaction. You must be able to read his expression and read carefully without giving away your own reaction to him. You must be calm and pretent nothing, nothing feeing from you.

Good luck.

troublemaker2005 SG

like you, probably they are casual friends students or colleagues, can see and probably can dine lunch together everyday. in each situation just make sure she don;t mess up their mutual relationshop should either party got rejected. can test and see. if you two need i can arrange one photoshoot for you two to have a chance, closer together. nonot those sensual ones iu arrange with angel

Little Red Book SG

Guys, thanks for your valuable ideas! You r very kind 2005 to suggest photoshoot. ha..but he don't even know me yet!

The key thing is he don't know me. He has 2000+ frens on fb. Not sure if he noticed me at all.

I don't think i m brave enough to meet him now. But at least let him know of my existence. then slowly develop from there.

He does not have anyone now, is in his own business and has good characters i suppose after reading his post, observation for 2.5 yrs on fb. He organizes charity event and goes on developing countries for charity work which is really admirable despite his busy schedule.

I m totally impressed with what this man can do with 24hrs!

Cheers,

LRB

gorgorlokaychyong SG

Guys, thanks for your valuable ideas! You r very kind 2005 to suggest photoshoot. ha..but he don't even know me yet!

The key thing is he don't know me. He has 2000+ frens on fb. Not sure if he noticed me at all.

I don't think i m brave enough to meet him now. But at least let him know of my existence. then slowly develop from there.

I m totally impressed with what this man can do with 24hrs!

Cheers,

LRB

You don't know each other. arlo, you are either infactuated or have a crush for him. I assure you it is not real love.

Sometimes cyber and in person reality may differ.

You are just having infactuation for him la, silly girl!

gunner77 SG

You said he has 2000+ friends in fb?

No offence but unless you are some super model or sexy chick, the chances of him noticing you is as good as zero.

For a start, add him on MSN/chat with him in fb

Participate in his charity work and take it from there.

troublemaker2005 SG

orh i see, typical fb and affection love at first sight. stalking him 2.5 years online do you know himmthat well? in person. sometimes even those can create a good impression of themselves online or even off in reality can be the opposite. there are many good guys out there. don;t regret later and waste time reading what people post online and think that its true. really online at foriums soime can post and write beri good, in real life i meet with them so so lah. so its better to just stay in love with him online and get a rea l love offline.

but like 2l over likes at ffb i think my photo shoot will be the fastest way for the two of u to meet

the world need s a hero - maybe sometimes a photographer

Little Red Book SG

HI Gunner,

that's exactly what i wanted to do now. To get the know the real him. He is never online "live" on fb so i got to email him. I needed some advise how i can do it know. I have never approach any guys in my life or maybe didn't find anyone who is worth it except him.

Do give me some tips on the opening line? lol.

thanks,

LRB

Little Red Book SG

I know what you mean 2005 but i know as well if i didn't say hi or at least get to know him i will kinda regret. You know, it's not really love at first sight. It is thru 2.5yrs of observation. And whether he as good as it seems i really got to find out.............

Gerberad SG

HI Gunner,

Do give me some tips on the opening line? lol.

thanks,

LRB

sometimes when u wana "aim high", u got to look at yourself first. u seem to have very high standards because u claim that u had never found anyone who is worth it. u seem to have no experience with approaching people or isit that u have nobody approached u before?? if the latter is inclusive then i guess u better dont try lah.

if he is as good as u have said, then he will have a girl by him already. if not, then probably 2 reasons; either he got heavenly high standards for a girl, or he is gay like me =)

angel7030 SG

but like 2l over likes at ffb i think my photo shoot will be the fastest way for the two of u to meet

the world need s a hero - maybe sometimes a photographer

I was stalked online for 3 years and still going on and strong, no big deal. Cyber space is certainly different from real open space. People just dun get it

gorgorlokaychyong SG

I was stalked online for 3 years and still going on and strong, no big deal. Cyber space is certainly different from real open space. People just dun get it

Someone stalk you for 3 years for what purpose? Want sex with you?

angel7030 SG

Eben then? for my shoes ar??

gorgorlokaychyong SG

Eben then? for my shoes ar??

You made me laugh. Is the person asking for free sex from you?