Hi all, my older sister borrowed 8k from me to help her
husband's failed biz. She promised to repay me back but she didn't.
She pretended nothing has happened. Her husband never apologise to
me & my hubby. I found out they borrowed from the rest of
my siblings including my mother. Over some trivia matters, she
stopped talking to me and refused to acknowledge me when we have
family gatherings. I am angry and hurt so I avoided attending any
gatherings if she is there. She is nice to my other siblings.
Recently, my estranged father was hospitalised and my mother asked
me to help contribute to the expensive medical bills. I am not
working and have 2 young kids to feed and my bills to pay. My
mother said my older sister is broke so no need to contribute. I
feel really angry cos' my mother never for once reproach my older
sister for not repaying the money owed to me & other
siblings. I told my mother I have no money left to help my
estranged father's medical bills and my mother sounds unhappy. What
should I do? Thanks!
You don't have to help your father if you are genuinely broke
anyway.
Can't squeeze blood outa a turnip.
Your first priority is to your immediate family-Your husband and
your children.
Your parents are irresponsible people. They have to face the
problem they created themselves.
As their children and family members.. you can love them.. but
should never allow them to EXPLOIT and/or ABUSE you.
Your father is abusive.. yet your mother never protect
you against his abuse.
Your brother sees your father abuse you.. so he thinks it's OK
for him to abuse you too.If he is married.. he most likely is also
a wife beater or a child abuser himself. The vicious cycle will
continue unless he is able end it.
Your mom is trying to guilt you into paying for your father's
irresponsible choices in his life. Stand tall.. and just tell your
mom.. sorry you can't afford it. I'm sure this is not the first
time she sent you on a guilt trip. That's how a lot of mothers
manipulate their own children.
If it worked once.. she'll use it again and again until she gets
her way.
These are TOXIC family members . It's ok to cut them out of your
life.
Your sister has decided to cut off ties with you over money.
Your mother and father may also decide to cut off ties with you
because of money.
If that's truly what you are worth.. a ATM machine.. then what's
the point of trying so hard hanging onto this type of
relationship.
Family relationship works both ways... you may want them.. they
may not want you.. so just go with the flow.. relinguish when you
have to.
