Based on experience and common sense, she is embrassed by the
unpleasant event that had taken place. The evidence that you
mentioned "purposely sat far away from me" implies a
negative notion of wanting similar thing to happnen again and
perpectually and conscienciously stay away from you. From what I
can observe "she would snub me and not be very friendly"
is tells me that she is being defensive and yet unsure how to
handle the awakward situation between both of you.
Suggestion:
1) Meet up with her in a quiet place, explain to her what has
happened i.e. your friend had been rude to her by shouting
sensitive things about her.
2) Offer your apology by saying "hey I am sorry for that
incident that happened, I know it might have cause you to be
troubled".
Optional: 3a) Confess to her that you like her and tell her why
you like her and how long have you been having a crush on her. At
this point, she will experience a mixed reaction of uncertainty and
confusion. Persuade her to give you a chance to be in a
relationship. [prepare some hand-made gifts i.e. stars, drawings,
stuff toys, flowers (girls go crazy over flowers)], all you need to
do is to make her feel special and praise her.
Optional: 3b) Offer a meal as an apologetic gesture. If you feel
that the time to confess is not right, you could offer her a meal
for being placing her in an awakward situation.
Outcome: 4a) If she accepts your confession and is willing to be
in a relationship with you, you should cherish her. and post back
in sgForum to tell us the outcome. However in the case where she
rejected your love because she's unprepared or confused, do not
force her. Act as if the conversation have not taken place and
continue to be good friends. Try again nex time.
Personal experience: I have a soulmate whom confessed to me
when I was in sec 5. I rejected her love and pursue the girl that I
loved. Now, she have become my soulmate and we read each minds
other like open booked. Depend on how you define soulmate, my
definition of soulmate is someone who knows what you are thinking
without you speaking a word and know your thoughts and mind at
a deeper level.
Outcome: 4b) Reaffirmed the friendship. Tell her that in future
if you have problems in schoolwork, ask if she is willing to help
you. Or if you are the one who is better in schoolwork, offer your
help to her during revision. Then wait for the right opportunity
and confess again.
Best Regards,
Chin Seng
Homework Forum Moderator
