The b iggest mistake is not loving him or falling in love with
him. Blaming him for your predicament is a cop out. No one can save
you. The archer who misses the target does not shift he target, he
corrects his/aim or … catch the drift?
Beggarly love has nothing to share and offer excpeting using the
word ’’love’’ but behind the curtain is all needs, expecations and
worse is that of expecting that another fulfil you.
Yes, it happens and look around, so many dead corpses like
zombies.
Bluntly put, it is a mutual benefit scheme. U look after me, i
look after u . Love never hurts, one one thinks of oneself (not
excluding needs, expectations all the undealt pysch baggage within
oneself + what one has in terms of material … ) is not one is. What
one is not is one is. My standing in a garage does not make a car
nor does my holding a book means I am reading it.
What is happening now is a wake up call. Ang mo or Chinese or …
does not matter. What matters is what is becoming of you, the
others are always an excuse, what u are matters.
Circumstances dont make people – it is a veil of delusion.
Circumstances reveal people.
Only when one is self-honest (not to be confused with honesty)
and has the courage to see within onself – ie, one’s ….. and most
importantly unlearning that aspect or reconciling to that
polarizing, conflictual self can one ever be free.
Two impoverished beings (inner) cannot share cannot partake of
one another. The only thing they can do is prop up with ’’stuffs’
or do things to prop up the relationship or marriage. It is nigh
impossible to sustain this for long. The wise would strike a
balance and understand that if one cannot relate to oneself, ie,
one ‘self’’, it is not possible to relato another.
